I had a beautiful baby girl. My first pregnancy was what the doctors called uneventful. I gave birth to a healthy, beautiful 9 pound 2 ounce, 21 inch baby girl. She was perfect in every way. It was what they call a spontaneous birth, which means that it was vaginal, not a C-section and things went well.
Pain should not mean pregnancy
I never thought I would have problem getting pregnant again. A few years passed and when my daughter was 4 years old, I discovered I was pregnant again. That pregnancy turned out to be a surprise because I had no clue I was pregnant. You see, I was bleeding and having severe abdominal pain. I went to the emergency room and after they took my blood, they informed me that I was pregnant. My husband said to them, “something is wrong. She has been pregnant before and she was not in pain and didn’t bleed.” They admitted me and scheduled me for a Laparoscopy procedure for the next morning to confirm or rule out what they thought might be my problem. The could not tell what was wrong but doing a cat scan or a sonogram.
They thought I might be experiencing an Ectopic pregnancy which results when the fertilized egg implants itself in something other than the uterus and most often a Fallopian tube.
Sure enough, that is what had happened. They found a tiny fetus growing in my tube. Had it remained there, it would have burst my tube and killed me. They had no choice but to remove my tube with my tiny baby in it. After surgery they came to me and told me that it was an Ectopic pregnancy and that because I only had one tube, I would only have the possibility of getting pregnant every other month.
A few more years went by and even though we never used birth control I did not get pregnant again.
We went to a fertility/infertility specialist and they could not see anything wrong with me other than the fact that I could only get pregnant every other month so they tested my husbands sperm. His sperm counts were normal so we decided that if we were meant to get pregnant we would and if it didn’t happen, so be it.
Five years after that I began to have pain in my right side in the area of my surviving tube. After all kinds of tests and many doctors visits I went into surgery to have my second tube removed so I could eliminate that pain from my life. It turned out that I had Endometriosis that was preventing me from getting pregnant.
It was also explained to me that if I really wanted another baby, I could have my eggs fertilized outside my womb and then implanted in my womb but that could result in multiple births. By this time I was already in my late thirties and we just decided that things were fine the way they were. Other couples who are younger may opt for that procedure.
My advice to all going through secondary infertility is to find out sooner than later why this may be happening so you can either find and fix the cause, plan to adopt or enjoy your life to it’s fullest just the way it is before spending a lot of time dwelling on it.