In Japan wherever I have been and especially at the work place, they expect you to learn tasks by being taught once. I’m writing this because I’ve always wondered why? Can anyone really learn tasks by being taught once? That’s almost like if I showed one of the people with this attitude a French text book once. They would be fluent in French on the next day, right?
This Japanese attitude is very illogical to me. I have always thought if people are really smart enough to do that, why can’t they pursue more in life? For example, studying harder, then getting a better or higher job like becoming a lawyer or doctor. I always learn tasks by doing them two or three times. But by doing this I was even told that I was so stupid and had no skill. In one particularly harsh instance I was even yelled at by a coworker “Don’t you dare make me repeat the same thing over and over again! Even though you are trying so hard, you’re never gonna make it, ever.”
Because of that experience I really lost a lot of confidence. That’s another reason why I put so much effort into studying English and French – to make sure that I wasn’t stupid. But by doing so I kept having a lot of conflict with Japanese society. This is the reason I’m still wondering why? They tell me those things because they want me to be better, they want me to do better right? Those who criticized me should be grateful to see me pursuing more in life. But the sad reality is they kept brain washing me that I was stupid. I put so much effort into the workplace and tried to do my tasks perfectly. Of course these people weren’t ever happy and continued to bully and abuse me, often as a large group as is common in Japan.
They still kept telling me that I was stupid. So my point is what do they really want me to do? I think whatever I do, the people who criticized me are never going to appreciate me at all. Logic doesn’t work in this aspect of Japanese society.
To me it is a very childish attitude. It is the reason why there are a lot of Japanese people who have lost confidence and developed depression in Japan. I’m sure these people haven’t been able to figure out that this part of society is illogical, because it took me so many years to figure it out!
My conclusion is that Japan has to change and become more logical. By doing that people will be able to maintain their confidence. If Japan can’t change, you can change by pursuing your interests and hobbies then make that into a professional career. That will help you to rebuild your confidence. Then the amount of depression will decrease.
If the Japanese way of thinking were correct, my answer to “I already taught you once!” would be to say “I’m sorry, I’m not as super-smart as you guys. That’s why I’m still studying harder to try to be as good as you!”
In my life I’m not only going to pursue languages, but many fields to make those who were disappointed with my performance happier.
Which is more logical, me or the “I taught you once already!” camp?