The first time I went on a vacation with my husband as a couple taught me more about our relationship than the entire time we had dated. You see, I am the kind of person who likes to have everything planned out in advance, and he is more of a free spirit that does things on a whim. By the end of the trip I knew that if we could make it home in one piece, our marriage had a very good chance that it would survive.
We went together to Orlando in the first year we were married as a combination business trip and vacation. It was January in Ohio, so we were happy to get a break from the cold weather. My husband was registered to take a 5-day training course with a group of his co-workers, and our plan was to stay another few days to enjoy the sun and see the sights.
Best Laid Plans
We had discussed several of the things we wanted to experience before leaving, but I did not take into consideration that my husband’s co-workers had ideas of their own. My husband, being the happy-go-lucky-type had a tendency to join in their activities and expect me to go find them. I spent the first five days doing a lot of grumbling, and never really got over it until it was almost time to leave.
Was it worth taking the trip, despite the discomfort I felt? Yes, because I learned that traveling anywhere brings up circumstances that are not quite the same as being at home, so flexibility is a useful personality trait. Here are some things I suggest you do before taking your first vacation with your partner:
- If there is business involved, be aware that it may take precedence, and be amiable about it.
- Determine ahead of time some specific activities you want to do together, but allow for time if there are things you want to do on your own.
- Be willing to try new things, even if you decide after doing it that you’ll never do it again.
- Be open to the possibilities, the opportunities for adventure and the new people you’ll meet.
- Pack your suitcase with mix and match items that can be assembled to put together a casual or more dressy outfit, since you never know where you may be invited.
I also want to say, that although combining business and pleasure is convenient, for your first vacation as a couple, you may want to plan for just the two of you.