According to The Washington Post, between 25% and 72% of men admit that they have cheated at some point in their lives. When someone you love cheats on you, it can be devastating.
No on likes to be cheated on. It hurts your self esteem, makes you angry, makes you crazy, makes you feel like an idiot, and breaks your heart all at the same time. But there are certain things that you can watch out for that may save you from being blindsided by a cheating man. I have been blessed with a wonderful husband who is not a cheater, but I have been cheated on before, and I know how it feels. So even after eight years, I still watch out for these signs – just in case.
He Starts to be Protective of His Phone
If all of a sudden your man does not want you to see his phone, or he starts to take it with him everywhere he goes, including the bathroom, there’s probably messages from another girl on it, or even pictures. If your man has taken his phone to the bathroom to play games every time for as long as you’ve known him, I wouldn’t worry. But if it’s a new thing, that’s a sign he’s up to something.
Pay Attention to What He Says
Everyone knows that people who lie, often lie so much that they forget what they said and their story changes. Pay attention to what your man tells you, so that even a slight story change later doesn’t go un-noticed.
He’s Not as Interested in Sex
This is a major red flag, yet it is a simple one. Men love sex, and they have to have it. If he’s not getting it from you, he’s getting it from someone else. There’s no gray area here.
The Accuser is Often the Guilty One
Some men become insecure and think that because they are cheating, you could easily be doing the same thing. If your man is constantly accusing you of cheating on him when you’re not, he could very well be the one that is doing the cheating. Whether he is or not, take this as a sign to get out of the relationship. The only relationship these people are capable of is an unhealthy one, and you will have a long road of unhappiness ahead of you if you stay.
Most Importantly – Trust Your Intuition
Women’s intuition is very real and very powerful. If your gut tells you that something isn’t right, don’t ignore it. Don’t be afraid to check up on your man either. Just learn how to do it quietly, so if you are wrong, you don’t have to look stupid.
Just a Couple More Things…
-There is a thin line between protecting yourself and acting like a psycho. Don’t accuse your man of cheating unless you have solid proof. If you are lucky enough to get one of the good guys, you can easily ruin the relationship by being suspicious and insecure.
-If your man cheats on you, leave him, and do not take him back, no matter what. If you do, you will never be able to look at him again without having thoughts his betrayal in the back of your head. And more importantly, by taking him back, you’re putting thoughts in the back of his head that you’re a sucker and you’ll take him back next time too.