So you don’t know how to talk to your child? That’s fine, don’t worry. The majority of parents are clueless too. In fact, everyone is clueless. No one really knows what’s going on around them; they just go by what they experience and perceive. This is important to remember, as you were a teenager once too.
Try to put yourself in their shoes. They’re at that awkward stage in life when they’re more lost than ever; they have little to no idea of who they actually are. They’re developing in so many ways, mentally and physically. This all comes on so fast, too, and can be a bit stressful for some. They’re just trying to understand their place in the world. You should know this better than anyone.
Be patient, and understanding. It’s easy to get frustrated, not only for you but your child. The moment one of you gets angry at the other, chances are you’ll shut each-other out. This happens sometimes, and it’s important not to place blame on another person, but realize this: Communication is a two way street, no one party is to blame. If someone is being difficult, then apologize. Be kind. Be understanding. Don’t tell them you know what they’re going through, unless you honestly do. Be honest. Tell them about difficult times in your life. Let them feel like they can open up to you.
Finally, and most importantly: love them. Give them your time. Listen to them. Listening is an act of love and devotion. Don’t give up on them, let them know how much you love them. Ask them to talk to you about their problems. Let them know they can trust you, and don’t force it upon them.
All these things should go without saying, but sadly many people overlook such simple things. After all, if you didn’t feel like you needed help, you wouldn’t be reading this article! There’s no shame in admitting you need help, honesty will always set you free. I hope this could be of some help to some people, as I can only go by my experiences. Those of a teenager.