If you are a person who enjoys watching reality television like the Braxton Family Values you may have heard of the phrase “Shade Anonymous”. This is a phrase that is often used on the show mostly by “Tamar Braxton” herself. What exactly does it mean? Well I didn’t know either so after doing some research for this article I learned that it’s a group that is trying to no longer talk badly about a friend or someone you know especially in public. It basically means to work on not showing any disrespect. Apparently this is something that has been an issue on the show between the sisters. So do you have a problem with this same issue in your group of friends or family? If you do, why not keep reading to find out how you can start your own Shade Anonymous Group.
Gather your friends
Start by getting a group of your friends together to talk about the problem. Be sure to think about whether or not you are a major part of the problem. You will have to admit this to yourself first before you can admit it to anyone else. Once you have decided on this, then you can get your friends together and talk about it. Perhaps as a group you can come up with a few ways that you can let each other know when they are going too far with their comments.
Keep it real
You will still want to be truthful with your friends be perhaps you can be a little more tactful with how you do it. There is not need to be rude when you are telling the truth to your friends. If they are really your friends you will always be honest with them. Perhaps you just need to learn when to turn on the filter. So when you have a problem speak on it but with tact.
Work in progress
Remember if you want to keep your friends you will have to work hard at it. It won’t happen overnight but if you all work together to better yourselves you will be better friends in the end. However if you are the type of friend that insists that other people work on things and not yourself, you are going to have continued problems.
Part of being shade free means to work at being forgiving. This means that if someone is shady towards you, let it go and get over it. Don’t hold a grudge. This will only make problems worse, and lower the number of real friends you have. Admit to yourself that you make mistakes, and then it will be easier to admit it to others.
Keep disagreements private
Social networking can get people into a lot of trouble especially with family and friends. If you want to work at being shade free, don’t make things public. If you have started a shade free group this should mean that you all agree not to make your agreements public. This means no social posting, not even emails or text messages that are negative. If you have an issue with a person get together with them, and talk about it. If you cant settle an issue right away allow some time to pass and perhaps all with be forgiven.