Nobody likes to be played in life. If you could have a guide to spot if someone is really serious in a long term relationship, then it would avoid all of that being played game. It’s not really difficult, although, it seems like it is at first right? I know on my journey to this point, I have learned how to spot t and deal with it. Here we go.
A player has no interest in the long term. They really aren’t even serious about winning you. They also know that being seen as a player is unattractive. They know that you don’t want to feel like a fool. So they have these games that they play which can be easily spotted. Your goal is to figure out how interested they really are in a long term relationship. There is an easy way to spot it. Step one is to look for bait and switch behavior. Listen to what they say when they describe things that ended badly for them. Ask them if they have ever had an experience where they were really displeased with what they got from a transaction. How did they handle it? If they describe a superficial response and validation for changing their mind about that transaction, then they are what the DSM, (The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders), refers to as flip and superficial. Follow up with some questions about life. Look for superficial responses and behavior choices. I’ve even seen some players come right out and say they are superficial. If they are, then you know that they are going to change their mind easily. You could be nothing more than a fad for the moment.
Pushy behavior is the second sign of a player. He or she is not interested in a long term relationship if they are willing to push you away. If your date seems pushy or controlling, then they are after getting what they want, not about pleasing you to reach a long term goal. Really watch out for this. The solution is easy. Walk away when they become pushy. Refuse to interact about the disruptive behavior to push you to do something that you are uncomfortable with. Instead, look for those people that aren’t pushy. Players can’t hide this for long. Watch for it, and respect yourself enough to put a stop to it.
Lastly, players are always inconsistent. This is due to the fact that they are looking for hits of power. They aren’t interested in a long term relationship. All they are after is the conquest. Some might even come right out and call dating a quest. If so, then they are playing you. That means that you need to exit stage left and never look back. sure, you might aggravate the player, but nobody really cares what a disrespectful, selfish player thinks. Love yourself enough to move on and see who else is available. If you are looking for a serious relationship that lasts, then that’s the only way to find the right person for your life.