When my wife began talking about menopause, I truly had no idea what to expect. She spoke of feeling irritable, being unable to sleep, and having moments where her body was so hot, she thought she would explode by spontaneous combustion. Later, she told me that drinking soy milk eased her symptoms. And it appeared to be true, because she seemed back to normal, for a while.
One day, out of nowhere her symptoms returned with a vengeance. She would be up late at night rehashing things in great detail, that happened 30 to 40 years ago. At the same time, she could not remember what I had said to her 5 minutes earlier. There were two symptoms of the change of life my wife expressed she was thankful she did not have to deal with. They are night sweats, and loss of sexual desire.
There is an old saying that you can never relate to a person, unless you walk a mile in their shoes. Even though husbands cannot sympathize based on shared change of life experience, there are ways we can support and help our spouses, through this season of change in their lives. Here are 5 suggestions.
1. Be supportive
Listen, and do not take the irritability personal. I have learned to let my wife get it out, then give her a hug,or a shoulder to lean on. This helps her calm down. Do not become irritated if she forgets something you believe is important. Give gentle reminders.
2. Meet your spouse halfway
I find that I now get cold easily while wife is feeling hot. When she turns on the air conditioning, I turn off the vent in the bedroom. i wear a sweater when I go into the other rooms in the house
3. Share how you feel in humor
Sometimes my wife and I joke about the issues that come with later life. It helps to take the edge off.
Walking helps both of us to relax. We often sit in te park together.
5. Educate yourself
Your spouse may have different symptoms than my wife.There are websites that can help you, with your personal needs. Most of tell your wife and show her that you love her. This wlll help her relax ore than anything else.