It is pretty typical and common for siblings to fight. There is always that competition and constant strive to be better than one another. You are always right and they are always wrong and when they achieve, it’s a tough thing to deal with.
I understand. I have a sister and we used to not be as close as we are now. We fought like all the others and had clashing interests and stiff competition. For some people, they just wake up one day and say I’m past this; let’s stop fighting. Or they work on it and mend their relationship together. That is what my sister and I did. We recognized we weren’t getting along as well as we would have liked, we talked it out, and came up with some ways to be closer. It worked and we are best friends now! I hope my steps and tips can help all of you out there that are having problems with their siblings.
Recognize you are different people. I know how people can compare siblings to each other. It can feel frustrating because you know you are your own person and so is your sibling. Try to accept that they are they way they are and you are you regardless of how you are compared. I’m not saying it is easy but try to appreciate them and focus on the positive parts of them as an individual.
Be the ice breaker; talk to them first. It can be challenging to just go up to your sibling and ask them to hang out or talk, especially if you two fight all the time or have an unhealthy relationship. Try asking them how they are or if there is anything they would like to talk about. Your sibling might be a bit taken aback or thrown off by the fact that you are not yelling at them to do something or criticizing them. But this is the first step. When you show you care, your sibling will gradually feel more comfortable telling you things and building back that healthy relationship.
Put aside the pride. I know this is easier said than done, but someone has to do it. If you did something in the past that hurt them or made them angry, try apologizing for it and seeing how they respond. Sometimes all it takes is showing you care about them to get them to open up to you. Remember, building a healthy relationship early is the best way to go. When you are grown up with kids, don’t you want your sibling to be close with your family and be involved in their lives as well? It is good to think about these aspects when mending and creating a better relationship with your sibling.