A few years ago, my mentor told me when I was facing a breakup that what was going to be best for me would be best for my ex, as well – that God doesn’t throw anybody under the bus. That has been so helpful to me and I have seen so that truth working throughout my life, where things may not have gone the way I wanted but turned out for the best.
Coupled with that statement, now I hear the mantra of “go with the flow” and am learning that going with the flow often means going with God. It gives me a whole new perspective because, if I go with the flow and things work out much better than when I try to engineer and manipulate situations to get what I think is best, then I conclude that God really is steering this boat.
Don’t get me wrong – going with the flow is scary, especially at first. What if I don’t have control of a situation? What if nothing works out the way (I think) it should? What if I don’t get that job that I so desperately want or make as much money as I think I need? What if I never get into a meaningful career and waste my life taking infrequent freelance jobs that don’t really make ends meet? What if my romantic relationship does not look like the movies and what if we cannot get married as soon as we would like?
Calamity has not ever hit as hard as I projected it would, but I have seen on so many occasions how my fluster and bustle to get things moving in my direction has messed everything up. And there comes another principle that I thought about several years ago when I was still in school: most of my stressing and energy, driven by worry and self-interest, is channeled into trying to secure a place for myself at the table of opportunity in this world with the fear of being passed over. However, my revelation was that if I am so busy fighting for myself, then God doesn’t have much room to fight for me.
What if I accept that God is steering this boat? That I can take my hands off the wheel and let myself sway with the current but stay afloat and get where I need to go? What if I don’t have to pick and choose what I’m going to tell a doctor or psychiatrist so that they will understand what the real problem is, according to me? What if I don’t have to make sure my life is interesting and littered with drama? What if I don’t have to make my own waves and current, and can just let God bring opportunities to me after I have committed myself to being open and available for whatever He brings? What if I accept and embrace the idea that me not getting my way and someone else getting what I wanted was best for that person and for me? It changes things.
What does “going with the flow” look like? It means taking care of my health and not taking on more responsibility than I can handle. It means being realistic and knowing that what is best for my family and friends will be best for me, as well. It means being realistic and willing to accept a different outcome than what I think is best. Ultimately, going with the flow means that I surrender my belief that I know best. It means believing that God knows and will always steer me in the right direction if I let Him, even if it seems counterintuitive.
Prayer for Today
When times are tough – like now – help me remember that You are here with me. Help me have faith and confidence by trusting that You will always provide and take care of me. Help me go with the flow and strop stressing.