I dated a lot before I found my Mr. Right. In fact, I even dated him a lot before we got it right. Finding a boyfriend is usually an easy task, if you are putting out the right vibes. However, finding a keeper isn’t always as easy.
Why are you looking?
One of the first things to look at when you are on the prowl, or thinking of hitting the dating scene, is yourself. In my studies (both books/internet and out there in the dating world) I have found that you attract more, and better, guys if you are putting out a positive attitude, being more approachable, and have a smile on your face.
But why are you looking? Do you want a life-long partner, a fling, or a guy to spend money on you? If your priorities for finding a guy are all wrong then you’ll just keep on finding the wrong guys. Makes sense, right?
If you are looking for all the right reasons then you’re more likely to find the right guy.
- You are ready to share your life with someone else.
- You want to find someone to spend forever with.
- You feel as though a partner could make you and even better person.
Now, don’t expect him to fix you, or your problems, but a good guy will enhance your already good nature!
Where to look
Where you look really depends on what kind of guy you are looking for, and what kind of relationship. If you are looking for romance at the bar you are more likely to find a one-night-stand or some brief affair.
In my Boyfriend 101 article a list a lot of great places to look for Mr. Right. My favorite ideas are taking classes, or joining clubs that having you doing things you love. Bringing out your passion and enjoyment opens you up to finding a great guy. Plus, imagine how fun it will be to be with a guy that shares at least some of your interests.
Things not to do
I cannot stress how important it is to be yourself. That is the number one rule to remember when looking for a boyfriend. If you put on false airs then you are more likely looking for something short-term, because the guy you find might not like the real you when it comes out.
Don’t put out on the first date. Remember the old adage- “why buy the milk when you can get the cow for free?” If you are giving into him right away that leaves nothing for him to work for.
About keeping him
- Don’t be clingy.
- Spend time with your friends.
- Get to know his friends.
- Don’t assume it’s more than it is until you’ve actually discussed it.
- Don’t say “I love you” too soon.
- Don’t try to control him.
- Keep your positive attitude.
- Have fun.
Being alone is OK too
Just because you are single doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. If you have a single friend, don’t look down on here for it. It could be a choice. Some people enjoy being single and don’t feel like they need to share their life with another person in order to feel fulfilled.
While you are single take time to really get to know yourself and to enjoy the things that you like to do. And then, when you least expect it, someone will come along. He always shows up when you least expect it, and he’s usually one of those that turns out to be a great relationship, whether it’s a lasting one or not.