Motivation is a great skill to have because it can provide an opportunities that might never have come into your life. It is courageous, it is daring, and it can provide tons of personal and professional growth.
Unfortunately, motivation can be hard to see, if we are living in a haze of standing still. We can never see the opportunities that await us if we are shrouded by fog of self-doubt, fearful of setbacks and are resistant to change.
So, here are 3 key ingredients to keep in mind when it comes to motivation and reaching your goals.
1) Get Rid of Negativity
Ask yourself this, what does negativity have to offer you?
Negativity has nothing to offer you, other than keeping you standing still and worrying about who you are as a person. And while we all know people who are gifted at being criticizers, we are the worst when it comes to critiquing ourselves. We will tell ourselves the worst things: “I am not good enough, I don’t deserve it, I have nothing to offer, etc…”
According to Live-Inspired.com , the chances of you being here…of being born, is 1:400,000,000,000! With war, famine, disease, the likelihood that your parents would even meet, etc….anything that could have hindered you being here, today, at this point and time, could have happened, but did not. You are a miracle…be it by science, by God, or by luck, you are a miracle.
And miracles have no place for negativity.
So, look at yourself in the mirror, and tell yourself that you are awesome, you have many things to offer others, and that you belong here and now!
2) Be Realistic About Setbacks
Set backs happen and they happen to the best of us.
And they are annoying.
My full-time career is a preschool teacher and my hardest days come from helping children overcome obstacles that we take for granted as we get older. For instance, scissors. Every seen a child struggle with scissors and wanting desperately to cut in a straight line? I can easily tell a parent that their child is on the right track with learning how to use their fine motor skills (finger muscles) and developing hand-eye coordination, but that matters little to a child…they, like Veruca Salt, want it now!
But the best way that children learn is through experience and overcoming obstacles…and that does not change when we reach adulthood. Life was not mean to be easy and we need obstacles for growth and learning. Obstacles do not mean STOP, but rather, using your ability to problem-solve and coming up with another solution(s).
Maybe, the obstacle is telling you to acquire more or a different skill set. Maybe, the obstacle is telling you to change your emotional needs (such as feeling good about yourself, rather than simply allowing the obstacle to overtake you). Or, at worst, the obstacle may be telling you to look at other goals and ambitions that will open other doors for you.
Be realistic about setbacks, but do not use them as a measuring tool for you who are. Instead, use them to grow more professionally or personally and tackle something even greater.
3) Change Your Behavior and Mindset
Change is hard (according to Psychology Today) and we love routine. We love routines because there is no guessing of the future. Routines are not an unknown factor, which can be frightening. And we use routines to create a safety blanket, where we are just comfortable with no need to explore anything else.
But routines, while comfortable, can also be stifling. Are you really comfortable being in a relationship where you are mistreated? Are you really comfortable with feeling like you do not deserve more? Are you really comfortable being stagnate, while watching other people get what they want?
The answer is no, because we are wired to grow. We constantly grow. Our cells regenerate, we have a need to be stimulated (reading, video games, pursuing more education or hobbies), and monotony gets boring.
All of those relationship advice columns will tell you that you need variety – it is the spice of life! It keeps things interesting and it keeps you motivated to do more.
Start with small goals, like getting up 15 minutes earlier or changing your gym routine, or trying a new restaurant….shock the body and brain with newness and they will reward you. Your brain will be stimulated and feel good, and your body posture will change to promote a more confident, self-assured you.
You deserve good change in your life, that will reward you…and people and opportunities will gravitate towards you.