Being asked to be a bridesmaid can be both an exciting and overwhelming task. It includes a variety of responsibilities, but the main focus of a bridesmaid should be helping and supporting the bride on her big day. Here are some tips to help you along the way.
Realize that it will potentially be a commitment of both time and money. Dress fittings, bridal showers and the bachelorette party are all events that a bridesmaid should attend before the big day. Bridesmaids also help in planning bridal showers and the bachellorette party, so that is also something to consider when accepting the responsibility of being a bridesmaid. I was lucky enough to have brides who paid for my dresses, but more often than not the bridesmaid is expected to pay for her own dress. If the dress is beyond your means, be sure to tell the bride about it, you should not break the bank trying to pay for a dress you may not wear again.
Be honest with the bride, to a degree. Be honest about the time you are able to offer to being a bridesmaid. If you are unable to fulfill the duties expected of you, tell the bride as soon as possible. A friend of mine was unable to attend our friend’s ceremony due to work, which meant that a replacement bridesmaid had to be found quickly. Thankfully, a family member was able to step up and fill the space, so there were still even numbers of bridesmaids and groomsmen.
Remember that it is the bride’s day. I once watched a bridesmaid spend the majority of the big day complaining about the dress, which the bride had paid for, as well as several other responsibilities that were required of her that day. Though very few of these comments were said to the bride, it was clear to everyone involved that this bridesmaid’s attitude was not one of support. It is very important to lend whatever help you can to the bride on the day of the wedding. It is also important to ensure that her day goes as smoothly as it can with as little stress as possible. This includes keeping a happy and positive attitude throughout the big day, in hopes of helping the bride maintain that outlook as well.
Go the extra mile to make the bride feel less overwhelmed on the day of the main event. Many of my friends have offered things like spa days or taking on extra responsibilities to make sure the bride can focus on making sure she is ready for the wedding, rather than the details of the day. One way to help the bride enjoy her day is to make sure she gets to taste the food. If there is a break in the wedding line, grab a plate for the newlyweds and fill with foods they can snack on while they greet guests. That is just one example of a small, but helpful thing you can do to make her day fantastic.