If you were asked to be a bridesmaid in a wedding first off, Congrats! Second, this is a big deal! Do not forget that! We all dream of our BIG DAY. This is your bride’s big day, not yours. It will be a ton of fun, but yes it will also be stressful at times. There are things that you must know for this process.
We all have lives, but please remember you need to take some time with the other bridesmaids and mother of the bride to come up with some fun ideas for a bridal shower. Do not blow the others off if they want to put some things together or make something for the bride. If you do, it will go back to the bride. Do not suggest to post embarrassing pictures of her as well. It’s her time to shine. She wants to feel beautiful and like a queen. That’s what you girls are there to do. She would do the same for you.
If you are strapped for cash then when you are asked to be in the wedding, mention it nicely to the bride to be. Tell her you are flattered and thrilled to be a part of this, but that you don’t have a lot of extra money. That way while planning things she will understand and you can all talk and figure out things in general. Don’t assume she’s buying your dress because that probably isn’t the case. You need to know that you will be pitching in for things like your dress, shower materials/food, bachelorette things and more. Yes you do still need to get her a gift, but she will also be getting her bridesmaids one as well, along with her paying for venues and DJ’s.
(to go with the dress topic) This is a big thing to remember! Are you ready???
Do NOT start saying things about what kind of dress the bride chose for you. It may not be a color you like or the style, but it’s her color and her style! It’s her day! You are there to help and please her.
Be enthusiastic about helping her with things like centerpieces, cake tastings, and much more. She wants the support. She will notice if you are being negative.
Try and enjoy this time. It goes by quick and really is a lot of fun if you can handle things being about someone else. Share this experience because when you get older and you are both married and you can each look back and laugh at everything you went through together.