Some or the most important things we need to talk about with our teens seem to be the hardest things to talk about sometimes. We don’t always know everything that’s going on at school or when they’re hanging with their friends. Do we hope that our teachers, sex education, and D.A.R.E. teach them what they need to know about the dangers of life? Absolutely not. It is up to us to take a pro-active stance to talk to them about preventing situations and learning to say no.
Hang Out With Them
If you feel a little uncomfortable talking to your kid about sex, for instance, take them somewhere were the both of you can relax, such as a fishing trip or a trip to a museum or art gallery. Take them to a park or even play some games with them, either video games or you can even play baseball, basketball, or throw around the football. As they get comfortable being away from their day to day pressures, ask them how they are doing when it comes to other children in school. Are they getting along alright? Do they have friends, teachers, and counselors they can talk to? Try and get them to know that there is always someone they can talk to on a daily basis. If you know the kids your child is hanging around at school, make sure to let yours know that your actions now will dictate your lives later on in the future separately, even if they feel like there is a sense of communion between them. This goes for sex as well as others, and for both boys and girls. Try and steer them away from just doing what it seems like the popular or different kids are doing.
The Decisions We Make Now Are the Ones That Matter
When it comes to things like drugs, drinking, or smoking, look up some things online about the before and after effects of users. Talk to them about loved ones who may have gotten sick and even died from using these substances. If you explain to them that their best interests come first and that these types of things have nothing to do with their own best interests, they will begin to understand. You will be able to talk to them more comfortably about things as time goes on and as they become an adult. If you talk to them about these things enough and congratulate and support the healthy accomplishments they receive and healthy activities they engage in, you will be ensuring that their future is a better one.
Gender Doesn’t Have to Be an Issue
It does not matter if you are a man or a woman, or whether or not you are talking about sex, drugs, smoking, partying or playing with guns, with a boy or a girl. You can always show your child your concern and work with them on the level that you feel they need to be worked with. They may respond to you at different ages, but if you give them privacy but still show them how concerned you are by repeatedly bringing up these topics, it will prepare them for the peer pressure that they have to face day to day in life and will help them to know that there is a choice to make a better decision than some of their friends or peers have.
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