The first wedding I attended once I was old enough to mentally take notes for my own wedding taught me an awful lot. Here are the top five things I learned that day:
1. Venue/Time of Year
The bride had chosen to get married on the beach of a local lake. The wedding was in fall. The whole place smelled like rotten fish.
Even the perfect venue can be imperfect if the time of year is not right.
2. Bridesmaid Attire
The bride had some petit bridesmaids and some hefty ones. She only chose one style and color of bridesmaid dress, and it did not flatter all of them.
If you are choosing to have girls of different sizes and skin tones stand up with you, take all of their body types into consideration when dress shopping.
3. Bridal Attire
After a 10-minute ceremony, the bride disappeared for 30 minutes. Where did she go? To change her clothes. She switched her gown for jeans and a white t-shirt.
If you are going to spend big bucks on your dream dress, be prepared to go the distance in it. You only get to wear it once.
There was BBQ. Plenty of BBQ. I HATE BBQ.
There are picky eaters in the world (probably none as bad as I), but there should be at least one additional menu item that is a standby for all. No one hates a good dinner roll.
5. Music/First Dance
Not even halfway through the first chorus of her wedding song, the bride decided she was embarrassed and made the DJ change the music so everyone could dance.
Choose a song of a length you will not get uncomfortable with and lyrics that will not allow you to think of anything other than the one you are dancing with.
As my mother would surely agree, I did not have a perfect, stress-free wedding. A church in June is much too hot, but I feel I did alright with everything else. I took my most average bridesmaid and figured if the dress I picked looked good on her, it would look nice on everyone. It did. I found a $2,500 gown marked down to $50 (and it was gorgeous!) and I rocked it all night long. Our reception hall offered a buffet and if you cannot find something you like on a buffet line, it is your own fault. The first dance song we picked is still one of my favorites and when my husband wants to surprise me, he turns it on and dances me around our home.