My husband, John, and I have been together since high school, so for how long we’ve been together I’d say would be like four to five years, not counting our marriage since we’re still newlyweds.
How we got engaged is a bit odd, I guess, but I am neither ashamed nor afraid to tell my story, so here it goes. We met in high school and he was a sophomore while I was a freshmen. We were in our seventh period, newspaper class/club, and at first he was sitting far from me while I was sitting with my friend Amanda just talking while getting down some ideas on what my comic strip I had to do for the paper would be.
Soon, in the middle of class, we had a practice fire drill, and we all got up to go outside like any normal school does. Somehow my friend disappeared on me, and I was left standing by myself looking for another friend of mine. Out of nowhere, though, John came up behind me and tapped my shoulder. I was a bit startled but it was okay because he did apologize for doing that to me. We chatted and honestly had a good conversation since to be honest when I first saw him I thought he was like me the shy and quiet type but he proved me wrong and showed me a side that I was, and still am, growing quite fond of.
When we were allowed back in he walked with me back into the school and continued to talk the whole time. John sat across from me and my friend, who reappeared after disappearing, and we talked. Since that day we had continued to speak during high school and even exchanged phone numbers a couple of days later. At the time though he was seeing someone as was I so it didn’t hurt me too bad since I was developing a crush on him at that time.
Though, as we spoke through text we talked about how the people we were with were complete jerks. My boyfriend at the time, Harley, always kept getting me upset and even cheated on me which honestly was to be expected since he lived in Florida so advice on that part don’t date online unless you are fore sure the guy won’t hurt you. Any ways, his girlfriend had broken up with him and I was already fed up with Harley that I did dump him too and both John and I were texting one night.
That same night when I was texting him that any girl would be lucky to be with him. Well what he texted me back was if I wanted to be that lucky girl! I was honestly so happy when he practically asked me out that I had to be sure since I didn’t want to be in another relationship so fast that it was going to mess me up or anything. He said he was for real and since then we went out on dates like some couples do and got to know each other though when he graduated from high school there was a little rocky situation in our relationship…he went to the army.
Now I am not against the army okay don’t get me wrong I was okay with it and didn’t stop him from going. I was proud he wanted to go honestly just boot camp was harsh for him that because of that we had arguments here and there. At first the arguments would be settled and go away but soon they got to the point that someone he barely met was trying to accuse me of cheating which John didn’t believe because he trusts me like I do him. Though our arguments got bad to where I wanted space to be me for awhile.
So we took our break when I told him I wanted one and he agreed to it even when I asked him to lose my number. He lost my number like promised and we did date others but guess deep down I did still miss him though never did give in since I was determined to have my space. The only thing that made me upset with myself was when we broke up….it was his birthday and I felt horrible afterwards. Trust me I really did that I cried because to me that was low but in my defense he did keep pestering me about if I really wanted the break which I did.
Well a few months went by and yet again I just broke up with this other guy I was with, who honestly was completely immature. It was during Christmas break and my mother was acting rather strange around me. I asked her what was up and why she kept texting so much because normally she’d never text as much as she was at that time. She had finally broke down and asked me if I still had feelings for John. Now that had surprised me because he had been on my mind a couple of times though since I deleted his number and never asked his cousin or brother, who I knew in high school, for it I could never get in contact with him.
I told her yes I did still have feelings for him and then asked her what was with the questions she asked afterwards; like what would you do if he wanted to see you or what if he just came out of nowhere to ask you a BIG question. When she was telling me all that I got curious and asked her what she was hiding from me. She soon broke down and told me she still had contact with him. She even told me that he was coming down to see me for Christmas and wanted to surprise me.
I was in complete shock that I had almost started crying. It had been months since I’ve seen him and thought that he had forgotten about me or something but to hear he wanted to come see me just made me happy. So that week I was all smiles and even my friends noticed. When it was winter break finally I asked my mom if he was coming like he said he would and she told me he was already on his way to where we were at. When he finally got to the apartment we saw each other right after I practically hugged him to death.
We had talked then my mom and her friend, who is her ex-friend now, both looked at him as my mom asked him if he was going to give me my Christmas present earlier. Now that part I was confused since I had no idea what he actually had planned but I saw him dig into his pocket of his army uniform while my mom’s friend pulled a chair for me to sit on. I was even more confused but right when he pulled out a small gray box I had a feeling about what he was going to ask me and almost cried.
That Christmas break he asked me to marry him and I was so happy, almost speechless, but finally said yes. My mom, her friend, my sister, my mom’s friend’s sister and my mom’s friend’s daughter were all very happy for me. So that’s my engagement story, and as for his reasons for waiting, well it’s obvious we needed a break before actually thinking if we were really going to actually work. Did I mind waiting? Well, honestly, yes, because I needed time to be me for awhile which isn’t a bad thing really for anyone to do. If you’re really serious about someone I guess it would be best to see if you two are really meant to be.
It’s like that one saying goes “if you love something set it free. If it comes back it was meant to be and if it doesn’t it was never yours.” or something like that but I’m glad we did wait. Now we’ve been married since last year of December and I’m really happy. Sure not very long but hey I love the man and even happier than ever since we are expecting a child of our own really soon. Though that story is even longer than this one but any ways if you all wish to wait for that right one then go ahead. If you’re like me and want to marry your high school sweetheart then please be sure they are right for you because if John didn’t make the choice on his own that he wanted to see me again to propose the way he did then I’d probably still be either single or with some other guy who probably wouldn’t even treat me right. Just for your own sake and happiness people do what you think is right for you and be sure you’re always happy with that other half of yours like I know I am.