Some teenagers are very curious individuals. My teenager had a question on whether or not to marry young or wait until she has sowed her so called “wild oats.” She wanted to know what is the appropriate age to be married and have a baby. I looked at her as earnestly and sincerely, then responded:
“You need to first of all finish high school, get a college education and be mature and old enough to marry. You have to wait until that special man want to marry and love you. Marriage shouldn’t be taken lightly. Remember, you are obligating and making a vow before God that you will be with this person for life. To love, honor, respect and take care of him if he gets sick. There are lots of responsibilities involved in marriage. You should be old enough to know that you want this commitment and is willing to give up your single life-style. Also make sure this is the man you truly love and be aware that your life-style will change.
It is no longer just you, it is another person you have to take under consideration. You will have to satisfy and make happy your spouse, not necessarily your friends anymore.Your spouse is your first priority now. Age twenty six is an idea age to consider getting married. By this time, you would have experienced single life long enough to know what you desire out of life by now. You should have more stability in your life and is now willing to settle down, get married and start a family.
Analyze whether or not you both have something in common. Is he loving, kind or very agumentative, hard to get along with? Is this person responsible and dedicated to making sure his family is first priority. You want to make sure he has strong family values, love and want children. Observe the way in which he or she treats his parents, and siblings. Is he respectful, get along well with other family members? What is his religion preference? Otherwise, are you on the same pace? What type of personality do this person possess? Do you like the ways in which he communicates with you? Make sure you marry someone who respects you and does not verbally abuse you. Marry a man who will accept you just the way you are and not try to change your personality to satisfy his own selfish desires.”
I expressed my opinion and she had time to think about what I said. I gave her my perspective about marriage and what age I think she should be. All kinds of thoughts ramble through teenagers mind. Who knows what types of questions they are going to ask. To all parents, just be honest and answer them as best you know how. Good luck.