There have been debates in my house and with people on the internet whether there is or how much similarity there is between characters on TV and people in real life. It all depends on which shows you watch and how much you pay attention to the goings on between the characters and the people you know in real life, including yourself.
Can Long-Distance Relationships Work?
TV Relationship (Tim and Delilah on “NCIS”)
Right now on “NCIS,” McGee is trying to make things work with his girlfriend, who took a job in another country because she was tired of the position she had. They are going to try to make it work by using Skype and other means of telecommunication to keep their relationship intact. He supports her taking the job following a long few months of recovery after being paralyzed in a bombing incident at a gala they attended.
I know several people who have spouses, are in a dating relationship, and even family (brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, moms, dads) who are in the military. Between Skype, email, and phone calls when time and other conditions permit, all these individuals somehow make their relationships work. One young couple had been dating while he finished his deployment and were married after he returned home to finish his stint in the military.
So yes, long-distance relationships can work.
I’m Religious and You’re an Atheist, Pagan, or Just Not Religious
This TV relationship is Booth and Brennan on “Bones.” Throughout the show she has always said she’s an atheist, and Booth always says he’s Catholic to the core and believes all things religious.
After they made the final hook-up and she got pregnant, Booth wanted to marry her from the get-go, with her taking her time wanting to get married, and sorting out all that between their two beliefs. While she doesn’t believe there is a god and thinks all the writings in the Bible are myths or other types of stories, she has started seeing why and how Booth believes the way he does. She started compromising on decisions that are religious in nature to Booth and he has also started compromising to incorporate Brennan’s beliefs. Their relationship is working for them because they talk it through, even though arguments ensue sometimes, and come up with the best possible plan for them.
Sure, there are people in this world who live in this scenario or one very similar to it. Even in my own family I see this happening and working out very much like Booth and Brennan. I do have to say there have been some relationships that haven’t worked out so well, but people have given it a shot — myself included.
So with this one it can be a 50-50 shot in whether it will work or not when one person is religious while the other one is on the opposite end of the spectrum. Mostly it’s all about how you really feel about the person, whether or not compromises can be made to suit everyone, and what is wanted from the relationship.
I’m a Brainiac; You, Not so Much (“The Big Bang Theory” Gang)
Yes, this one is going to cover the characters on “The Big Bang Theory.” Not just the relationships between the boys and the girls, but as friends as well. After all, it takes as much tolerance, patience, understanding, love, and, well, sometimes karma to make a friendship last, especially when there are degrees of smartness and personalities involved. This area also can lead back to “Bones,” too. A Ph.D. versus a bachelor’s degree versus just community college versus self-taught to common sense.
I’m going to start with Howard Wolowitz. Sheldon and everyone, including Penny and his mom, give Howard plenty of grief over not having a Ph.D. So, he doesn’t have a Ph.D. He has a degree in engineering — an aerospace engineering degree because of which he builds all kinds of things for NASA. Heck, he’s even been to outer space — the Space Station in particular. So just how dumb is he really? Not so much. Then again, Sheldon thinks everyone is dumb but himself. That’s kind of how Brennan looks at those without degrees, even Booth and Angela.
You have Howard married to Bernadette, a microbiologist; does it work for them? Sure. They are more like most married couples you see and know in real life. Smart and smarter with their arguments like the average couple.
Penny doesn’t hold any type of degree and she gets flak about it as well. Is she dumb? Compared to the gang, maybe. Book smart-wise she’s not the brightest crayon in the box. Street smart, sure she can kick anyone’s butt verbally and physically. As for the others, can they do that the way she can? Nope. Then, there’s common-sense smart. Most of the guys have some degree of common sense. Sheldon on the other hand, not so much. Booth and Angela have street smart, common-sense smart, and teach-themselves smarts.
Somehow, all these different types of smarts comes in all different types of packages with these characters.
Sure, I know people like each one of the characters in both shows. Some are doctors, some are lawyers, some are police, most are your everyday Joe, then there are those who are all over the map with the brainiac. The different types of people are: family, friends, my husband, brothers, cousins, and so on. Each has their own unique way of thinking that brings educational things into my life, much like Penny has the “BBT” gang.
Does having a brainiac as a spouse work? Sure. My husband is one in a sense; he has attended some college, a tech school like Wolowitz he graduated from, has common-sense smarts, and street smarts. Does it work for us? Yes it has: 27 years of us being together proves just that.
As you can see there’s all kinds of smarts. Just because one doesn’t hold a degree, doesn’t mean they’re dumb.