Many women who spend their days at home with their child/children at some point or another experience a sense of loneliness or loss of ones self. There are some simple ways to get through it. You are not alone. I am a stay-at-home mother to my 2 year old son. It has been the most challenging and hardest job i have ever had. i know that the end result will be worth every moment.
Being at home has opened my eyes to so many things. I have been told some women who stay home with their kids all day while their husbands work let themselves go. I didn’t understand what that meant before, but I do now. It is draining. My friends are all working and going on with their own lives and here i am at home cleaning up spilled milk all day. I started to feel alone and like no one understood what I was going through. I was told once “why don’t you go back to work?” I couldn’t bring myself to do that though. This is a time I know I won’t get back and i needed a way to change my feelings before they consumed me to the point where it would get in the way of my marriage.
First things first, physical health is very important to me. I stopped taking time for myself to work out and keep myself in shape, That really took a toll on my self esteem. I didn’t feel young and sexy anymore. My husband didn’t treat me differently, but I saw myself as different. During nap time instead of making sure laundry and dishes are all done i take time to exercise and shower. It has made a world of a difference.
Next I started joining groups with other mothers. This gave me an opportunity to talk with other moms that may be going through similar things. It also let out some energy for my son which is always a plus! If i am not doing that I am at a park or the library. Keeping your kids busy and happy will in turn make you happier.
If it seems like no one gets the hectic, crazy life at home, don’t worry we are all feeling it!! Don’t stay cooped up in the house all day. It;s not good for you or your child. Also, take one night a week to go out on a date “date night”. Remember you are so much more than a mom. Your children mean the world, but trust me that they want a mother who’s happy in her own skin!!