So many people don’t realize “how an alcoholic in a family affects their spouse and children. For myself, when I drank and abused alcohol, it never crossed my mind that I was hurting the very ones that loved and cared for me.
We the alcoholics never realize that our children that look up to us for guidance, and look up to us for being taught what to do right in life, and then to see their parent drinking and abusing alcohol and thinking to their self, is this the right way to live our life?
They respect us as parents, and to let them see us drinking and getting drunk right before their very eyes is the wrong thing to teach them. They will follow their parents footsteps and then say, “my parent drank and got drunk all the time, so if they can do it, so can I.”
We as parents need to think how we are effecting others that are surrounded by our addiction to alcohol. Our spouses are taking this horrible ride of an addicted life right along with you.
Why can’t we see what is going on when it is right in front of us. The alcoholic thinks nothing, but getting their alcohol in them to reach that special drunk they long for. I am not putting anyone down here, because I was the same way when I drank alcohol. I saw nothing, but when I was going to have that next drink. It is a crying shame that the alcoholic can’t see that we are hurting so many people in our lives all because our addiction runs our life.
We are blinded to outside world and really don’t care much about anything, but getting buzzed and drunk each and everyday. As I write each day about alcohol addiction it brings back some horrible memories of what I was like being an alcoholic, and how I put alcohol before all else, plus what I put my family through with each drink I took.
Our innocent children don’t know any better, and for them to watch us drinking and abusing alcohol and being nasty when the buzz kicks in is no way to teach our children what is right in life. Certainly having them see us drunk is the wrong thing any parent could ever do to their children. I regret what my children saw of me when I drank, and got drunk just about every night. I wish I could erase all of those times in my life!
There are so many times our children, that are supposed to look up to their parents are in fact scared to death inside for the fear of what their alcoholic parent will do next. Will they harm me, or will they say something to me that will hurt me deep down inside. Will they physically hurt me? All of this goes through a child’s mind, and it is horrible to make any child feel afraid of their own parent.
We are supposed to show our love to them. We are supposed to teach our children what is right, and what is wrong, and bring them up in a loving and caring family life, not show them how life is living with a person addicted to alcohol.
The spouse, as hard as they try to talk to their addicted other, gets nowhere as far trying to tell them to stop drinking and change their life. Many times it is a losing battle trying to convince your spouse that what they are doing is not only ruining their life, but alcohol is destroying their family along the way.
You can talk to your addicted spouse only so much, but if they are not ready to surrender to their addiction, then all the talking in the world will not work until they are ready to get out of denial and surrender to their demons.
As you know that enabling your addicted spouse is the worse thing anyone can do. The alcoholic thinks then that it is okay for them to continue to drink because you have not set your foot down and given them an option. Sometimes tough love is the only way to get the point across that you will not continue to put up with their behavior by drinking and abusing alcohol.
It is very hard for everyone involved. It is very sad to have your young children witness possible arguments, or fights between their Mother and Father. This just may scar your children forever by what they have seen over the years. So, do yourself and them a HUGE favor and give in to your addiction to alcohol.
Let your demons go and start living your one and only life with sobriety and happiness. You will thank yourself in the end that you have not only changed your life, but made a happy life for your spouse and children by stopping drinking and abusing alcohol.