Starting a serious relationship can be fun and exciting if two people know where they are heading with their friendship. When the friendship turns into a courtship, it may be a time to start thinking about the question of, “Will you be my lover?” With that, here is a good step by step pattern on how to start a serious relationship.
Laying It Out
The first thing to do is to let each other know what your expectations are in a relationship. Things such as hobbies, intimacy, living arrangements, and schedules should be discussed to understand what two people want and are willing to give up. This will be the conversation that leads into all other conversations or ceases the thought of commitment.
There may be many things that two people are not willing to give up. There also will be things that they will not accept such as cheating, dishonesty, or breaking promises. Some people may even go as far as saying that they never want to own a pet, live in a certain place, or eat certain foods.
I once heard a speaker say that long courtships usually do not end in marriage. Therefore, the two prospective lovers should discuss how long they plan to date before accepting or expecting a marriage proposal.
In order to get to the point of marriage, the two possible sweethearts should talk about if they want to be married. If one person does not plan to go the route of eternal commitment, the other person may be wasting their time.
If marriage is a deal, children will definitely be an important topic to discuss. Not only should the special friends talk about if they would like to have kids, but how many would satisfy them.
Personal Career Goals
Last but not the least, careers will be important to understand. The prospective lovers will want to make sure that they are not working in careers that will keep them away from each other. Also, they will want to make sure that neither career will lead them to be tempted to compromise their relationship.