Last year, I made the very important choice of whether I wanted to stay home and take care of my new daughter, Suze, or stay at work and continue my life as a programmer. I made the important choice to take care of my daughter.
Financial Pros and Cons
Financially, I took a very big loss. My steady job paid well, and I really did not want to resign because the pay was great. However, I thought about how my decision to leave would affect the rest of my daughter’s life. With me, she was given a caring fatherly figure who was always there to help. Even more, it was not a complete financial loss because I was saving the money I would otherwise have to spend on day care for Suze. Thus, I decided to stay home and take care of my daughter despite losing my great job.
Tips for Others
For others in a similar situation, I would definitely think about what is to happen with your child. Obviously, my decision has been made and there’s no going back. I’m not in any position to go begging back for a job at my company. However, it is very important to have a parental figure in a child’s life. If they go to day care, this is not an option because the ‘parent’ from day care has another dozen or so children to take care of. I too was raised by my mother, who resigned from her position as a pediatrician. Though our family’s income decreased greatly, all of the effort was put into raising me, the prized possession of my parents.
If you are in this position, weight your pros and cons wisely. An important thought to keep in mind is that nothing has to be done suddenly. Once you hear that you are having a child, you still have many months to make an educated, wise decision.