The wedding process can be challenging and highly stressful. Everyone says so and there’s a reason for it – because it’s true! How do I know this? I got married about 4 years ago and with my sister getting married in a few weeks, I have been reminded of the many stressful situations a bride can face. Here are some tips that I have shared with my sister which I feel can help keep it from all spiraling out of control.
Tip #1 – “Bridezilla” – “To be or not to be.”
Some brides want everything to be about them and take complete control over the wedding planning. Other brides allow family members and close friends to spearhead the planning and remain on the sidelines. Some brides fall somewhere in between the two extremes. Determine where you fall on the spectrum and figure out where you want to be, and take the necessary steps to be the bride you want to be.
Tip #2 – Some parts of the wedding planning process can suck, so just accept it.
Not every part of the wedding planning process will be “fun and games.” Whether it’s dealing with your in-laws to be, wedding invitations, or the seating chart, there are likely to be things that just won’t be fun, and that’s okay. Be able to acknowledge this up-front and it might just make things slightly better.
Tip #3 – Make sure you and your fiancé are always on the “same page.”
Communication is key. Always. With a never-ending list of to-do’s and emotions all over the place, tensions can be high and this can be the source of misunderstandings. Make sure you’re communicating effectively with your fiancé to avoid any unnecessary arguments and hurt feelings.
Tip #4 – It’s not about the wedding, it’s about the marriage.
When I was planning my wedding, a co-worker shared this thought with me and it stuck. She told me not to get caught up in the wedding planning and drive myself crazy with details such as whether I should choose crème or ivory for the color of the invitations. Rather, remember that the wedding symbolizes the beginning of the journey with your partner. Keep things in perspective.
Tip #5 – Find your “my person.”
When things get hectic, you’ll want to find someone who you can vent to, cry with, or just get away with for a bit. For me, it was my sister. Anytime I was overwhelmed or overly stressed, I was able to reach out to her because I knew she would be there for me, without any judgment. It was great to have that support. Find your person.
Tip #6- Remember, everyone has an opinion.
Just remember, everyone has an opinion and most will share their unsolicited advice with you. It can get very frustrating. Give some thought to the advice that appeals to you. If not, it’s a good thing you have two ears – in through one, and out the other!