Several popular female celebrities have recently cut their hair in cropped styles that both extremely cute and surely much easier to care for than longer hair. My reaction has been to wonder how those cuts would look on me. Evidently, certain men consider their pixie cuts to be an attack on their erections.
There is a group of men who have banded together online and call themselves “Men’s Rights Activists” Any attempt to break gender molds seems to enrage them. Their ire isn’t just aimed at feminists, although there is plenty of hate aimed that direction. They gladly tackle other tough cases like men who choose to be stay at home fathers and “Bronies”.
One of the most baffling sources of anger for certain members the movement seems to be women who choose to wear their hair short. One viral article claimed that women with short hair are damaged. Based, presumably, on the idea that if a woman doesn’t care if men find her sexually appealing there must be something profoundly wrong with her.
I’ve worn my own hair from almost waist length to shaved and every length in between. I’ve dyed it different colors and worn it in numerous styles. At no point, however, did I ever consider what I was doing to be a message to be interpreted as some sort of statement of my politics or sexual orientation. C’mon bro, it’s just hair.
Browsing any thread on a Men’s Rights message board that deals with hair leads one to assume that these men believe that a woman owes it to the world to beautiful in the most traditionally feminine way possible. Her hair should be long and worn loose because she should want men to find her sexually desirable.
Even women who don’t self identify as feminists should be appalled by this line of thinking. I’m sure that these men don’t work out so that they have the six pack abs that the majority of women find appealing. The shameless hypocrisy is astounding.
It’s widely known that our culture prizes certain physical characteristics in women. That’s why there are only a handful of movies that star an overweight woman in the leading role and why women are starting to get invasive cosmetic surgeries at younger ages. But now men are trying to tell us how we should wear our hair?
I think that it’s ridiculous that such a thing as a Men’s Rights Movement even exists, but the idea of it doesn’t keep me up at night. What worries me is that there are people out there who honestly believe that women have a duty to be as attractive to men as possible regardless of whether they actually want to attract men or not. That sort of overbearing attitude treads dangerously close to a sense of ownership. It’s as if they are saying that women should do what they want precisely because it’s what they want and it’s every woman’s role to fulfill their desires.
I still don’t know whether I’m ready to commit to a style as short as Jennifer Lawrence’s, but if I do, I won’t be sparing a second thought for these poor men’s flaccid penises.