Gone are the days when a date was made by picking up the phone and actually using one’s voice to ask a person to a dinner and a movie. In today’s society, we either text, email, or Facebook message the person we are interested in, wait for a response, and then send links on possible movies, or restaurant options, before finally deciding where to meet, and sending the address of the destination, so that it can be entered into the person’s GPS. All of this done without even hearing the person’s voice, or speaking one word from the mouth. Is this a better or worse way of getting together? That I don’t know, but I do believe that if you do attempt to bring back some voice to voice, face to face reality into today’s dating tactics, you might be closer to finding a real relationship a lot sooner.
See the reality is, we can’t stop, slow down, or back track the advancements on technology. It is just not possible. But what we can do, is make the conscious choice to not use technology when we don’t want to. In my opinion, courting or dating someone should be one of those exceptional times. Below are a few ways on how taking a relationship slowly back, might just move it quickly forward.
Pick up the phone, and use your voice. It sounds obvious, but believe it or not, most people choose to text or email the person their interested in, before they would ever think about calling them. If you take the initiative to dial their number, and speak with your own voice, it will show the other person that you are confident, serious, yet personal. And it’s much easier to read a person’s true intentions when they can actually hear your emotions behind a real voice.
Write a note. Remember when we had to actually pick up a pen, place it down on a piece of paper, and write out what we wanted to say to someone else? Yeah, I almost forgot too, but writing an actual letter is not only considered cute nowadays, but it also shows that you are thoughtful and sincere. The fact that you actually took the time to manually express yourself on paper, is definitely worth time getting to know someone on a date.
Actually walk up to the person, and ask them out. Like face to face. Yes, this is the scariest, most crazy option to asking someone out, but it is the ultimate way to say what you want to say. When you are courageous enough to ask someone out in person, it shows you are confident, strong, serious, sweet, charming, thoughtful etc. etc. and etc. Since this tactic is used the least, you will definitely be thought of the most, as it will make the best impression on whomever you are trying to ask out. (And it’s definitely harder to say no to someone when they are right in front of your face!)
Try these tactics the next time you want to ask that special someone out, and you will be on your way to a real in-life relationship, no doubt!