This is an age-old question where opinion has a lot to contribute. It is dependent on age, culture, gender, sex, race and so on. In short, it is really very individual.
A night out
In the NT mainstream world ‘going out on the pull’ is a common thing to do. This involves going on a night out either to bars, pubs or nightclubs, drinking fair amounts of alcohol and engaging in a lot of flirting and many unwritten social rules. There is often a lot of sensory input (loud music, flickering lighting, crowds and so on). Many people on a night out are often after a bit of fun.
This again involves many unwritten social rules. Work relationships are often the focus of unpleasant gossip and scandal. Plus, being together and working together can be distracting and could be discouraged by bosses or supervisors. However, some relationships started through work can be successful especially if the partners work separately or in different departments.
This is a good one if you have friends who have your best interests at heart and who know you well. Friends can often know people who they think may be suitable for you and through that can become a mutual friend. As outlined in the Friendship and Relationships section of this chapter, great long-lasting relationships are often based on solid friendships. If you struggle to get to know people, an introduction to a potential partner by a thoughtful friend can be a big help. Another good thing is that if a good friend or friends of yours know that you are on the lookout for a potential date you are building up the number of potential people that you will meet, rather than just looking on your own.
The online dating world
This is a potentially good means of meeting someone can and can work out cheaper than a dating agency. Some Internet dating services allow you to search their database for free but you may have to pay out to actually contact a member. This will usually be paid monthly by direct debit, so it could get pricey if you do not monitor the length of membership. Again, success rates don’t seem to be as high as other means but could be a good starting point if you are socially inexperienced.