Help wanted: Foster Parents needed fulltime only:
This article is of special interest to me personally as I have a foster child and a foster parent. I become a foster parent because I had gone through the system as a child. I was six going on thirty. I was abused and neglected. When my mother was tired of the abuse to herself she would leave. My father would leave each day leaving me to care for two younger brothers. He would come home drunk and abuse me. This left me believing I was responsible for my brothers. When we were removed and separated I was left with the feeling I had failed and “lost” my brothers.
Things you should think about before you choose to become a foster parent:
Statistics of 2012 and 2013 show there were 399,546 children in foster care.(https://www.childwelfare.gov ) These children come in all shapes and sizes. They come with development and psychological issues. So here are some things to take into consternation:
- · Is the timing right for the family
- · Do you make enough money to support the family
- · The size of the yard, does it need a fence
- · Is there a pool or pond that may need fencing
- · Is the home large enough
- · How is the addition to the family members going to affect each member
Timing is very important. My late husband and I had talked about being foster parents. I knew what to expect; however he did not think about seeing an abused and/or neglected child for the first time. My first foster children were two (twin boys) two years old. They had been left by themselves for three or more days. They were in diapers that they had been in for at least that long and dirty T-shirts. That was all they had on.
Developmental and Psychological Issues:
A child at any age is going to have developmental and psychological issues. These issues can be a number of things:
- · Attachmet
- · Lack of emotions
- · Their response to stress
These issues are many times long-lasting. (https://www.pdiatrics.aapublication.org (Children’s Hospital of Pittsburg ) Most children in foster care are there for a year or less. The hardest thing, I believe about being a foster parent is saying “good bye”. Foster children really do not care what color, race or religion the foster parent is.