Love is a beautiful experience, your eyes meet hers from across the way for the first time. That initial spark grows into a wildfire burning for each other; it is all consuming. Maybe that moment leads to growing old together; perhaps she is even your soul mate. Although if that is not the case, I have five steps that will help you survive your lesbian breakup.
1. Stalking is bad
Stalking your ex is bad. Plain and simple. The truth Is that you do not want to know what they are up or whom they are doing. Investigating these things is simply you being a psycho. Delete them from your Facebook, block them if you cannot keep temptation at bay. Remove all forms of contact and let go as gracefully as you can. Blurring boundaries is not an acting with kindness. It will only amplify any pain that will be felt regardless. I suggest severing all ties at least for a time. Being creepy will not make them miss you.
2. Take a Thirty day Hiatus
When it comes to any form of separation, it is always best to take a little hiatus from all things intimate. Give yourself a minimum of thirty days to clear your head. The clarity will give you a reprieve as well as a little leeway when getting back to the land of the living. You Must deal with the oncoming emotions appropriately, the only way out is through.
When you do find yourself ready to date again, I suggest a rebound fling. Enjoy experiencing someone else, be in the encounter fully and allow the fog to lift. Having a little fun does not mean you have to get married or make a commitment. You are simply testing the water. Do not make it more than it is. When rebounding it is important that you are honest when explaining what you are hoping for with this interaction.
4. There is no rewind button
Running into your ex is a constant threat. Maybe you see them at the local Starbucks, they look good and the conversation is familiar. Do not let yourself slip into this limbo. While the temptation of having a fling may be strong and possibly mutual. It will undoubtedly undo the progress, you have made. There is no rewind button and acting as if will only cause further harm.
5. Success is the best Revenge
At this point just be happy, take lots of pictures and revel in the movement you have made. Success is surely the best revenge so get your payback while having a great time!