1. Learn how to be a patient listener.
But also learn how to politely back out of a conversation. Some people need a sympathetic ear, and it is wonderful to be able to provide that. But if it is draining you, or you are too busy, knowing how to politely get out of the conversation with no hurt feelings is an important skill.
2. Don’t date bad tippers.
I would give this advice to all women: if you are on a date, and your date doesn’t tip, or tips poorly, decline the second date. Here are some character traits you can probably bet on: they expect a lot, and give back little; they think the world owes them somehow; they probably always has an excuse for their actions. Not the kind of guy I would want to date. I will take appreciative and generous over those traits any day!
3. Manners are important.
It is important for me to be polite to my patrons, even when they are annoyingly drunk, and it is just as important for them to be polite to me and my staff… even when they are annoyingly drunk. It keeps things civil and pleasant. Same goes for how you treat the store clerk, your barista, or your spouse. Manners, manners, manners!
4. Forgive and forget.
Drunk people do stupid things. Even people who are usually very polite, can become rude, demanding, and/or perverted when drunk. The next day they are usually either humiliated, or they can’t remember a thing that happened. You do a lot of forgiving and forgetting as a bartender, and it comes in use in other areas of your life. You also learn when not to forget, such as when someone was violent or destructive. You can forgive, but don’t forget, and definitely don’t let them back in your bar!
5. What goes around, comes around.
Treat those below with the same respect as you would people who are the same or higher level as you. The hostess, the busboy, the barback. Treat them right, and they will bend over backwards to make your life easier, make you look better, and help you make more money. This can apply anywhere. If you work in an office, be nice to the secretary, the intern, the receptionist. Being nice goes a lot further then abusing your power. And you also never know who is on their way up.