Creating boundaries and saying no shouldn’t be difficult. Some people are able to do this with ease. That is not the case for all of us. Personally, it took me many years to learn how to have a voice and to stick to it. If you too are having an issue saying no then I have five keys that will help. Taking these actions consistently will allow you to hold to your word and be assertive. You will be no longer allow yourself to be taken advantage of.
1. Set Boundaries
First you must find out what you are willing to do and what you are not. Once you have this groundwork laid you should communicate it to other. Lastly, you need to stand by your word. Doing things will successfully create a boundary.
2. Be Respectful
You may be saying no, but there is no need to be disrespectful. Often when we have been pushovers for most of our lives we feel the need to be aggressive when trying to change this behavior. That is not the case. Maintaining a respectful attitude will enforce an appropriate exchange.
3. Have Conviction
Stand by your word with conviction. Most people will try to get their way, this is human nature. Having conviction, a boundary and being respectful will keep your side of the street clean.
4. Guilt Free
Saying no is not something to feel guilty about. It may be tempting to beat yourself about
having to set restrictions, refrain from this. Taking care of yourself is important, refusing to do certain things is a part this process. Feeling guilty about it is simply a waste of energy.
5. Their Response Is Not About You
Needless to say that not everyone will be pleased with this shift. Remember their response has nothing to do with you. Do not take it personally.