The day I created my online portfolio in one of those popular online dating sites was a very interesting day for me. Amazingly, and to the surprise of some of my friends who thought I was being a little too desperate in the relationship department, I became an instant sensation in the site. I started getting private messages from men and even women who, like me, were on a special mission… to find the love of their lives.
I have to be honest and say that I was never a big fan of those dating sites. I used to think that only extremely lonely people would dare to try to find love in the world wide web. The funny part is that, after telling myself numerous times that I was never going to fall for it; I did fell and not only did I fell for it, I also got myself into some crazy situations. After dealing with multiple stalkers and turning down many “instant” marital proposals from some “very interested” guys from Guanajuato, Mexico; I realized that online dating wasn’t for me, so I cancelled my profile and put an end to the torture.
If like me, you have been bitten by the online dating bug; continue reading. Below, I will share with you five of the most important lessons I learned from my short stay in the online dating world:
Lesson 1: Don’t give your love prospects too much information about yourself. This is a simple rule and one that I learned the hard way. Giving too much information can lead you to become the victim of some persistent and intimidating stalkers. Believe me; it happened to me.
Lessons 2: Don’t pretend to be someone you are not. Again, guys. The fact that your love prospects can’t see you doesn’t mean you have to lie about who you are or how you look. Sooner or later, the person will try to link up with you (either in person or via video chat) and you won’t be able to continue with the lies. So, be honest from the beginning. If who you are isn’t what the other person is looking for; say bye and move on.
Lesson 3: Treat the online “dates” like real dates. Yes, that’s right. If you are involved in an online dating situation and you schedule a “date;” please, make sure you are present and on time. The fact that you are meeting online doesn’t mean you don’t have to be polite and considerate. Being present and on time tells the other person that you are interested. It’s just like if you were meeting in person.
Lesson 4: Don’t put your life on hold while waiting for the other person to get online. This is a super important lesson I learned the hard way as well. Stay focus on who you are and the things you have to offer to the relationship. Allowing the online dating experience to rule your life is the biggest mistake you can make. Enjoy your “dating” experience, but also continue living your off-line life, as you were doing it before.
And finally, the most important lesson I learned is…
Lesson 5: Realize that even when more than a third of the recent marriages in the USA started online, in your particular case, it may never happen. Yes, my dear friends. This is the ugly truth. Either we like it or not, only certain amount of the relationships that start online have a chance of survival. Yes! Sad but true. If this doesn’t intimidate you, then give it a try. At least, you know what you are getting yourself into in case things don’t go the way you planned them.
There you have it, my friends. Online dating could be a great experience but only if you know how to play the game. If you are currently thinking about giving online dating a try, I will honestly say; go ahead and do it, but be careful. The truth is that you never know who or what is at the other side of the screen.