Can you actually find that perfect someone without even looking? What if I told you that the easiest way to find someone that you are compatible with is to not even try? If you think that is the craziest thing you have ever heard then I invite you to keep reading. We can easily walk down the streets looking at everyone that walks by trying to decide if they might be the one. Or you could go out to the bar or club and scout for potential future spouses. While those both may seem like the sure way to find your soul mate you are easily missing out on the best way to possible to search for that special someone. As we move forward with this I want to remind you once again that the biggest thing you need to remember is that you are not proactively searching for that person.
So when you think about that perfect person, your soul mate, you probably think of someone that shares your same beliefs, thoughts and opinions, someone that enjoys the same lifestyle that you do and that can see a similar future. So how easy is it to spot these qualities by looking at someone? Maybe they have a shirt on that has a brief bio to help you know if you should start a conversation with them or keep walking. Not likely! What I want you to do is to think about all the things you enjoy in life. Write down a list about yourself, your goals, your interests and hobbies. Now look at that list and write down places that you go to accomplish these things. These are the places that you will likely meet that special someone.
It’s time to get involved in your community. What types of places do you already spend your time? Do you spend enough time there just being yourself? Are you open to expressing yourself to others while you are there? These are the ways that other people will be able to get to know you. But you can’t limit who you openly communicate with because they could be the path that leads you to that special someone. Finding the perfect someone should be similar to the way people should conduct business. You always want to treat people with respect and dignity no matter what impact you think they will have on your business or career. The reason you should do this is because you never know how that person might be able to positively affect your business in the future, maybe through a referral or maybe directly themselves. When you treat all individuals the same you will reap many benefits and lead a much more successful life. So you need to make this concept your same focus when you want to find that special someone.
Start thinking about a typical day in your life, when you’re off the clock. Where do you spend your time? Are you locking yourself inside your house hoping that eternal love will magically find its way to you? This may take a while if it’s your top plan for finding someone. You need to get out there and start living life. Go places and do things without ever thinking that today is the day you will meet someone and even if today is they day you still shouldn’t think that you have found the perfect someone. You need to get to know a person before either of you can decide if you have found your match. The best thing you can do is to just enjoy spending time doing the things you love and more people will notice you. It could be another person that spends a lot of time around you that you wind up building a relationship with as you get to know each other better. Maybe another person that sees you often starts to realize that you could be a perfect match for someone they know and they ask if they can introduce you. You never know where the opportunity may come from but it will come much quicker than you think and it will be much more likely to be a good match if it comes from you just living and enjoying life the way you want to.
For some people “true love” will walk up and “smack” them in the face and for others it may take some time for that other person to bump in to you. Either way you shouldn’t try to force it to happen. If you meet someone and you think they might be that perfect someone you should always remember that you must meet their criteria too. If they decide that you may not be the one and you just can’t figure out why then I will tell you why right now. It’s because we are all so different and come from such different backgrounds. You can’t expect someone to like or love you just because you like them. It’s just not fair to assume that and you should put yourself in their shoes. There are many people that don’t meet your criteria and it wouldn’t be fair to you to accept that because they think you should. Just let it go if it doesn’t work out and look at it as a great new connection. Maybe down the road that person can lead you to the perfect person. Either way you can’t look at it as a loss when a relationship doesn’t pan out the way you hoped.
My hope from this is that you understand that you must enjoy life and all it has to offer and not push so hard to find love. When it finds you through your everyday lifestyle then it will be much more likely to be that forever love. The perfect match for you is waiting amongst all the things you know and love to do so it’s up to you to get out there and enjoy life so they too can find their match too. Always keep your head held high and show your confidence in the person who you are.