When I was 25, I got engaged. Finally! And I say finally because it took my now husband four years to propose! There came a time where I thought he never would, it was taking so long. I dreamed about this moment my entire life since I was a little girl and I knew I was in love with him and that he was the one I wanted to marry. I wasn’t sure if he felt the same after a while, but then I found out some surprising revelations later as to why he would not propose sooner, and it made me breathe a sigh of relief knowing he always wanted me to be his wife.
I hinted and pressed him after the third year for marriage but he didn’t give and I got worried. Was it me? Did he not love me as much as I loved him or not want to spend the rest of his life with me? I felt like our relationship was everything I could of asked for and more. He was so kind and selfless and I knew he really cared about me, but I wasn’t sure if all of that was enough for him. I said things like, “I can’t wait to have a house together someday” and I would talk about where I wanted to have our honeymoon. He would get quiet or change the subject and I would ask countless questions to find out why he was avoiding the topic. He kept saying it wasn’t the time and I kept thinking, what does that mean? One year later, I got my answer.
He wanted his proposal to be perfect, and it couldn’t be until he made enough money for the big surprise. One day, spontaneously, he took me out on a yacht that he rented out on the coast for a romantic and expensive dinner. There were candles and violins and beautiful city lights. I was so surprised and happy, but I still didn’t guess what was coming next. Inside my empty wine was a ring. He knelt down beside my chair and said, “Now it is the right time and I would love to marry you if you would say yes” I was crying and laughing and I nodded yes through my tears.
If you are waiting on your man to propose, think about this. Maybe he is planning the prefect one and it really isn’t the right time. Remember, it has to be the right time for both of you. Something I didn’t do that I wish I had earlier was ask him if he did want to marry me and be with me forever. Don’t be afraid to ask, you know him and communication is very important. If you trust him and know in your heart that you have a great relationship, then wait patiently and it will come.