If you have fibromyalgia life can be tough. For me, not a day goes by that I don’t have to explain something about it to someone… including my husband. What I find the most confusing is why the symptoms fluctuate so much. I personally feel pain differently depending on the weather, chemicals I’m around, the food I’ve eaten, hormone fluctuation, and variance of daily activities.
- Fibromyalgia is a syndrome which means it varies from person to person. I can’t tell you how many times I hear “well so and so has it and they can ___”. Constantly having to defend yourself is exhausting.
Many people I talk to feel like they lack friendships. People may drop us as friends because we constantly break plans. Having good friends as a strong support system is very important. Here are some things you can do to help.
1- Call to see how your friend is feeling. It means a lot and happens rarely.
2-Offer help with chores when possible. Usually your friend will be too proud to ask.
3-Get a book. Learning as much as you can about fibromyalgia will keep your friend from having
to explain all the time.
4-Try not to judge. Some people honestly think we use it as an excuse to not do some things.
5-Don’t push. We know our limits and we pay dearly when we do things we know we shouldn’t.
This one is by far the most important. Think about how you feel when you have the flu. Would
you want to go shopping? We feel bad enough not being able to go. Adding guilt is just mean.
Does your friend have financial troubles? Most of us cannot work full-time. Massage therapy, acupuncture, chiropractic, supplements, and organic diets are strongly recommended for us. Unfortunately, we usually can’t afford those things. Gift cards for the grocery store or spa are the best presents in the world.