Life’s biggest lessons are not only learned through trial and error but through adversities and tribulations as well. When you’re blind sighted with unfortunate or difficult events, you are forced to make one of two decisions. You can either take action or dwell on the situation.I will be sharing my personal story of hardships and how I was able to overcome them. In return, I hope my story will help others believe that “the grass is always greener on the other side”.
March 12, 2011, my cousin Nicole and I were sitting on the roof admiring the perimeter of our two year home, thankful we haven’t had to move yet. Not only was I thankful for two years of stability, but I was also thankful for another year of life; It was my birthday! Finally legal! Just as we jumped of the roof and onto the trash bins like we had done millions times before, my boyfriend and his best friend showed up. As they surprised me with cupcakes, I thought my day couldn’t get any better, and I was right because it got worse. My brother comes into the garage where we were all hanging out, and I immediately notice the look of sadness and distress in his eyes. “Were about to be homeless Desi, Mom said were going to have to find somewhere to live, were all going to go our separate ways.” Embarrassed, angry, and confused I ran into my room. Nikki ran in after me, reminding me I wasn’t alone and we’d get through this together. I knew it was coming I just didn’t expect it to be so real. I didn’t do anything wrong, but it didn’t matter. Knowing I had no one to help me, I just thought of a plan to make sure we were able to eat and had somewhere to stay. From that point on I knew I was going to be on my own, whether I was ready to be or not. Three weeks later after saving the little money I had, selling my car, my dog, and Playstation 3. Altogether I received about $1,000, and $300 of that went to our first week at the motel 6 and two month bus passes.
That following day I spoke with my high school counselor and told him about my situation. I knew I wouldn’t receive much lineage due to it being so close to the end of the year, but it was necessary for me to let them know what was going on. He gave me a list of homeless shelters, hoping that would help. Now I had a choice go to a homeless shelter, or stay at a motel with my cousin, I figured both environments were going to hold me back from my schooling either way. My mind was no longer focused on educating myself, but was focused on supplying myself with stable shelter and money. So I dropped out, which could’ve been the dumbest or the smartest decision I could have made at the time. I remember how vigorous the rain was that day was as I rode the bus back to my new home. The weather reflected my now gloomy spirit. Next day I caught what I thought was a cold, but later found out was a lung infection. “There’s always something” I would think to myself. Not only was I depressed, but I was so sick to the point I couldn’t even get out of the bed without it overworking my lungs. I felt completely helpless, and stuck. With my cousin just starting her job as a CNA, and the money I was able to get on a monthly basis I knew we had enough money to pay for weekly nights at the motel, however, I was afraid we wouldn’t be able to save up enough money to leave!
Time was just flying by and we still seemed to be in the same position. It had now been a whole month of living at Motel 6. Tired of eating microwaveable foods, my cousin Nikki and I decided to go to this restaurant right across the street called Kountry Folks for breakfast. After the waitress took our order, she asked if we would like one of their free gifts of motivation. Curious of this motivational gift, I said yes. She came back with our food and too emerald green transparent baggies that both contained a bunch of tiny seeds and a strip of paper. Super hungry, I was only interested in my freshly made food. After eating we made our way back not forgetting our “free gifts”. When we got back I finally opened my baggie and read the note. It stated as follows, “Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” I was so shocked at how direct this message was. I had to laugh, it was an ‘ah-ha’ moment for me. I needed to realize and I finally got it! Although I was helplessly put into this situation it didn’t mean I had to act as such. I had to stay strong and be optimistic! Believing in myself was key to getting out of this mess and taking action was the way to go. Since apartment hunting wasn’t working for us, we decided to think bigger. We started looking for houses and close reliable people to become our roommates. My other cousin, and his friend were now our official roommates. After about a week we got our first look of hope, a Realtor office said he’d help us get a home guaranteed as long as we paid a $200 application fee. With this being all of our first time renting a home, we had no idea what signs to look out for in scams. Sure enough we were scammed out of $200 and hopes we finally had a home. Learning my lesson, I never gave up and persistently spoke all my deepest hopes and desires into existence. While my cousin was at work I was at the motel looking for other possible homes and a stable job for myself. I knew since I didn’t have my High School Diploma it would be hard. However, the odds were in my favor and I knocked two birds with one stone. I had found a beautiful home with 4 bedrooms that we eventually got, as well as a receptionist opening for a Business called B1st Local Gurus that I was accepted for on account of finishing my remaining 30 credits and receiving my High School Diploma. 3 months later I received my High School Diploma from the Moreno Valley Adult School, had my own house, had a job, and my own rules to follow! I was content with my life finally, and it all happened because I took action with the help and encouragement of others.
Before I was put in this stressful situation I had high hopes for my future. During the time of my ordeal I quickly became insecure of my capabilities and limited myself to achieve things I could only see. However, I soon realized my near-sighted vision was due to my lack of faith and optimism. The day we went to Kountry Folks I received my awakening and was transformed again. Matthew 17:20 told me my faith was like a mustard seed, small yet so powerful if I put it to use. I did as I was told, and things quickly came together in greater abundance than our initial living situation. Everything I sold, I received back better than the last. Hope alone is not enough to break barriers; you must go the extra mile and have faith. Faith helps you believe in all optimistic things, and optimism can take you a long way. “Speak things into existence”, my grandmother always used to say; now I truly know what she meant. When you are in a situation you can’t control, don’t fret, simply take a deep breath and believe in yourself. You can accomplish anything through faith.