In every interaction that we enter into we must have a bottom line. Having this boundary in place gives the other party the luxury of knowing just how far we are willing to go. This information will grant both of you room to move while also establishing the limit. When seeking to establish a bottom line in a relationship, there are few steps you must take in order to be successful.
1. Personal Inventory
Before you can put a bottom line in place, you must first know what your limits are. To obtain this knowledge, you must take personal inventory. Look at what you are willing to take part in and what you are not. What are your boundaries and how do you them respected. These tidbits are extremely important. Encourage the other party to do the same so that you may know their bottom line as well.
After you have taken your inventory, you must share them the person involved. This way everyone is clear about what the bottom line is. When sharing this information be kind and receptive to hearing what their thoughts are. As they share their inventory with you be honest about your willingness to abide by the boundaries, they have in place.
We all know that the only constant in this life is change. What works for you today may not work in a month. Establish an evaluation date with the other party. Be is once a month or every three months this time will be used to discuss what has changed if anything. Keeping these lines of communication open will allow you both to feel heard and validated, therefore, negating any opportunity for resentment to build.