Have you lost your emotional virginity? Granted, this is a confusing question that is not that easy to answer. Most of us walk through this world guarded. Seeking to protect ourselves from even the thought of pain. This process is one of isolation and conflict. Losing your emotional virginity usually means that you are feeling an unregulated emotion. I am not an expert on how this may look. Still, I do believe the cure is emotional rejuvenation. This practice is not a cure for the emotion that has surfaced. It is simply the act of bringing your spirit back into balance. Therefore making emotional availability less scary.
Resistance is what makes change so difficult. You may find yourself fighting the shift towards to emotional freedom, this is normal. The key is to surrender as quickly as possible. Making a conscious effort to allow the change to take place will free you from the power struggle. Surrender ignites a gentle movement to occur, making the changes easy to accept.
Chances are that if you are walking around within a tomb of “Protection” it based on perceived shortcomings. We have all made mistakes. Each of us has harmed ourselves, others and even been harmed in the process of becoming. These instances remind us of incredible pain and convince us that isolation is necessary. The reminders are not lies, but our actions based on them are. To emotionally rejuvenate you must clear out the old. The heartbreak, pain, confusion and blame. Acknowledge that these things happened that you were that person and that you did the best you could. Clear out the self-hatred and fear so that you may know a know freedom.
As you walk through these changes, it will feel unnatural. There will be moments where you feel like a fraud. This sensation is simply part of the process. Embrace the freedom that you have fought so hard to achieve. Be kind to yourself and allow the rejuvenation to take hold.