Becoming emotionally available is not an easy process. It takes persistence and constant willingness. Being available for your friends and family may seem simple. Still, it is not. Those of us that walk with detachment struggle to bring down our walls. There is a constant battle within us to connect. Although, once the battle is won the freedom is indescribable. There are steps you can take to help with this process. These are three that helped me to achieve availability. When changing such a fundamental behavior remember to be kind with yourself.
1. Remain Present
Part of being unavailable is simple not being present. This does not mean that you are not there physically. It tends to be more emotionally driven than that. When seeking to change this check in with yourself regularly. Remind yourself to stay present, be in the moment and breath.
We tend to invest in what we care for, this signs indicates emotional depth and care. When we are disconnected there is no investment because we are protecting ourselves. Taking the risk of investing is the most authentic sign of availability. Take the time to invest in those you care for, show them that you are there and allow them to be there for you. This act will clear out the cobwebs of mistrust and hesitation.
The protection we seek from attempt to live within indifference robs us of our authenticity. As we strive to change this behavior, the final step is to express ourselves. We must openly discuss what we feel, want and need. While this act may feel counter-intuitive, it is the epitome of availability. Only those that are truly available share fearlessly about themselves with their fellows.