My fiancé, Joel, and I have been together since December 2009. At the time I had just turned 17 and was still in high school and he was 19, so marriage was not in the front of our minds. We were (and still aren’t) your typical young couple. My fiancé was a home schooled vegetarian who was raised on Christian beliefs and values and definitely does not drink alcohol. I am thankful I met him when I did so instead of partying on Friday nights with other people my age, I was staying sober and taking things slow.
Joel and I did not start talking seriously about marriage until after I graduated high school and we were together about 2 ½ years. I would never say much because I knew he was very skittish about the “m” word but I would always be so nervous inside. His reasons for waiting to propose made plenty of sense. He was simply waiting for the right time. He wanted to have graduated college and have a job and I was still borderline too young. He did not want to go into marriage broke and with no plan so he was trying to get himself in order first. He did not necessarily say this out right to me but I trusted him and knew not to push him into anything that he wasn’t sure of. Besides, I had told him I did not believe in divorce so it would have to work out the first time so I was okay with him taking his time too.
In August of 2013, almost 4 years after we had started dating and when I was only 20 years old, Joel took me to the local park and got down on one knee. I’m not a very emotional person but I cried. That simple little moment between us was the most special moment of my life and luckily a friend was with us and recorded it so I can experience it again whenever I want.
My advice to others who are waiting on an engagement is to be patient. Don’t let yourself be pressured by others around you who may get engaged before you or start getting panicky if you’re not married by a certain age or after you have been together for more than 2 years. Respect the fact that your significant other needs time to think about it and use that time to think for yourself so neither of you make a mistake. Also, the simplest engagements are the perfect ones. If your boyfriend doesn’t fake fall off a building or make a movie or shoot off fireworks when he proposes, it’s okay. Remember, the proposal is just a transition from “in a relationship” to “engaged” status and “engaged” doesn’t stay nearly as long or matter nearly as much as “married.”