When I was chosen to the bridesmaid for my cousin, I was a little upset that I was not asked to be the maid of honor. After all, we had been best friends our whole lives. When she went away to college, we grew a bit apart, but I was shocked when her friend from college was chosen over me. I accepted my role, and even though I thought I was really helping her throughout her big day, I had become the bridesmaid that almost got kicked out of the wedding.
Here are some tips how to be helpful and not a burden to the bride:
- Remember that this is the Bride’s big day and not yours. She’s the boss.
- If she asked your opinion, be honest, but not hurtful.
- If the Bride picks out the worst looking dresses you have ever seen, put it on and smile.
- If she’s crying don’t suggest a thing. Just be there for her.
- She needs you to help, just help. Even if it’s time consuming and meaning less to you.
- Be on time for appointments that the Bride invites you too.
- Complain. Don’t whine that the colors are crazy, or it’s hot, or that your dress is itchy.
- Drink too much. Don’t need you falling into the cake.
- Be the grouch. Don’t be the bridesmaid acting like a two year old on the big day. Smile and wing it.
- Don’t be the one with a wardrobe mishap at the last minute. Make sure your dress and shoes fit.
- Lose your cool. The Bride will already be stressed. Just take your time and don’t rush.
- Demand anything from the Bride. This is her day!
Helping your friend in her wedding is a honor. It might get a little dirty, and it won’t always be fun, but you can help her create a wedding to remember for a lifetime.