I’m sure you’ve heard it before whether you’re a man or woman. The classic, age-old statement to dismiss your feelings as a man. That’s right, I’m talking about the “You’re a man get over it!” or “Real men don’t cry” argument.
If there were ever two statements to invalidate your feelings, this would definitely be it. The sad part is that the people who use these statements are usually men.
It disgusts me that as a society we have somehow stigmatized crying and assigned it a gender role. Since when was crying only a female attribute? Everyone cries. Everyone. Whether you are man, woman or child you have cried in the past and you will cry in the future. The people who dismiss crying as a woman’s problem are usually simply too scared to admit that they cry.
Also, this argument that real men don’t cry can create a lot of problems and cause men to suppress their emotions.
Crying has evolved as a means of letting those around us know that we are in need of help. It is often a much more powerful message than a simple “I feel sad today” statement. Some people even believe crying has a biochemical purpose which is to release stress and toxins from the body, although not every scientist agrees with this claim.
Although it’s not a proven stress-reliever, most people do profess to feel better after crying, so why exactly are we trying to take that away from men? What did men do to deserve the removal of sentimental tears from their lives?
In my experience as a man, people who claim not to cry, or who claim crying is for wimps, are usually the most miserable and sad people. They keep their feelings bottled up inside, never releasing them except for in large, unhealthy bursts of sadness, anger, and grief.
Men have feelings too, this is a fact of nature. Although most men don’t like to release or show their feelings. They see it as a sign of weakness. Well, I have some news for you. Crying is not a woman’s job. It is not feminine. It is not a sign of weakness. It is simply human.