When parents think about child discipline, it’s automatically assumed that it’s only required when a child does an offense or break a rule. Spanking is a method that a lot of parents choose, which is controversial. I, personally, condone spankings because it works, speaking from personal experience. It’s not barbaric, and it doesn’t promote violence. Spanking is only one of many things you can do to punish your child when they do something wrong. Moving on from discipline as far as punishment, there are things you can to discipline children even when they’re behaving appropriately.
Discipline is not only required when your child does something wrong. Discipline methods can be put in place so your child can grow up with a set of values and turn them into a responsible adult. It’s all incorporated in how you’re raising them, what you’re allowing, and what you’re not allowing. These days, too many children are exposed to so much technology such as smartphones, and tablets, that they have no sense of respect for how things used to be done before all of these electronics were invented. So it’s important to make them do things, and teach them the values they need to appreciate life and the things that are more important. This is an aspect of discipline that many parents seem to overlook.
Aside from regular chores that children should do at home, sometimes giving them extra work to do can help them learn a sense of responsibility, and can even help them grow up learning the value of hard work. They may scoff at this if they’re an older child who isn’t quite used to so much work. That’s why it’s important to start out with discipline methods early. This doesn’t mean work them so hard, that they’ll be exhausted everyday. And it doesn’t mean that extra chores should be required everyday, just throughout the week.
Limited to No Electronics:
Children are spoiled with electronics such as smartphones, tablets, laptops, and desk top computers. While having these things are okay for them, sometimes it’s too much. Small children, especially, shouldn’t be going to school showing off a smartphone and/or tablet. They should be going to school showing off their new crayon collection and coloring book. As they get older, the use of a cell phone is necessary in case of emergencies, but there’s no need to go overboard, even if they’ve been a good kid.
Electronics should be kept to a minimum for older kids, and with smaller kids, they don’t need it at. Help them learn the value of reading books the old fashioned way, instead of on a tablet or kindle. It seems like reading books became a lost art. When I teach children, I help them understand why this is so important, and as parents, it should be a responsibility.
Even when it comes to watching a lot of television and playing video games, children can learn a lot of values and responsibility if there is a scheduled time for them to be doing something more constructive. Schedule when it’s okay for games and television, and schedule when it’s time for something else more educational.
When it comes to playing outside, this is another factor that has to be considered, not only with responsibility but also physical fitness. There are so many types of games and ways to play them, it seems like children no longer like going outside to play with their friends. All children need fresh air. Despite it not being on the radar, it’s good for their development, and physical activity can help keep them healthy. How are they supposed to stay healthy if they sit around watching tv and playing games all the time? So scheduling a time for each activity is important.
While children need a break from the school week to relax and “regroup” for the next school week, adding something important like giving back to the community is something they can do on the weekend. It doesn’t have to take all day, nor do they have to feel exhausted and annoyed with it. There are many creative ways on giving back to the community that will get children of all ages involved where they can have fun, build character, and help people at the same time.
Helping the hungry and the homeless is something everyone should get involved in, but especially kids because it’ll help them better appreciate what they have, even if there are times where it feels like they don’t have enough. Kids will be kids, after all. Going to places like community centers to help other kids their age will help them bond with kids of all nationalities and all ages. They can be a mentor, tutor, and many other things.
Another thing kids can do is help organize a neighborhood cleanup. Litter is everywhere, it seems, and it is something children and adults contribute to. Taking time to help cleanup the neighborhood will assist with giving them responsibility, and it will help them get in the habit of keeping tidy.
When children do so well, they will definitely earn some free time to themselves. Rewarding them every now and then will make them want to continue doing good with their lives and in school. Don’t go overboard with giving them a prize every time they do a good deed. That will make them expect that all the time, even when they don’t deserve it. It’s important for them to know that growing up learning responsibility shouldn’t be an option. It should be required. That way when they grow up and have their own children, they can teach these same values to them.
Incorporating all of these aspects will help children influence those that may need more discipline and it can positively impact someone’s life. Not all children have it easy, unfortunately. Give your kids the best of both worlds of being a kid, and learning what’s important in life. Always remember that discipline for punishment goes hand in hand with discipline for character. You can’t have one without considering the other.