It’s official! He’s finally slipped that sparkling diamond onto your ring finger and you’ve set a date. You’ve celebrated with a glass of bubbly, shed a few happy tears, and now you’re ready to face the daunting (yet exciting!) task of planning the wedding of your dreams.
Choosing a style for your Big Day involves so much more than simply going with what you ‘like.’ You now have his tastes to consider, and you are in fact taking the first steps towards creating your own signature brand as a couple. Your wedding day will be the first glimpse that the world gleans of your new identity as man and wife, so cultivating an aesthetic that will not only create a beautiful wedding, but will also accurately portray you as a couple, is imperative.
The style that you choose for your wedding will affect every decision that you make from this point on concerning your nuptials- but have no fear! With a little bit of research, a few chats with your hubby-to-be and your basic sense of style, you will be on your way to cultivating a beautifully genuine style that’s totally unique and all your own.
First, think about how you decorate your home. Consider his style as well as your own. Make a list of your favorite foods, best-loved pastimes, activities that you enjoy as a couple and even list your favorite magazines. You’ll want to pay attention to your personal styles, the type of clothing that you wear and the restaurants that you love to frequent. Each of these attributes holds a key to your overall style as a couple.
As you make your list, you will begin to see similarities, trends and patterns. Let these surfacing trends shape your thinking as you hone in on the style that will best represent your unity as a married couple.
Check out a few of our tried-and-true tips below for developing a wedding style that will not only bring your wedding day together beautifully, but will also set the stage for the style of your future home and life together.
Start dreaming. Brainstorm with your fiance about your big day. Forget about the details at this point and look solely at the big picture. Imagine how you want your guests to feel when they see you walking down the aisle. How do you want them to feel when you enter the Reception, newly married? Do you want your guests to experience the romance of the moment? The gravity of theoccasion? The joyousness of your newly unified life?
Your style and the overall vibe you set for your wedding are directly tied to the answers to these questions. Asking the right questions will also help you determine the location for your ceremony and the reception, as well as what time of day will be most appropriate for the event.
If you’re experiencing ‘wedding block’, try this simple exercise:
- Close your eyes and picture your ideal wedding. What do you see? What do you feel? What do you hear?
- Now, open your eyes and write down the things that stand out in your mind.
- Have your fiance do the same, and then share your ideas.
You’ll be inspired in no time!
Pop Quiz! While you’re picturing your perfect wedding, here are some key questions to quiz yourself with. Though they seem like they may be afterthoughts, to be determined after more basic style decisions are made, they are actually integral to the overall determination of your ‘look.’
- Will the wedding be big (everyone you know) or small (a close-knit group of friends and family)?
- Will you marry outdoors or in a church?
- Are you staying local for the event (marrying in your hometown or your current city) or packing up your crew to jet away to an exotic location (a destination wedding)?
- Which of these words most resonates with you: Modern, Classic, Romantic, Vintage, Rustic, Glamorous?
- Are you most comfortable with an event that is: fancy, casual or somewhere in between?
Most wedding sites also have wedding quizzes to help you in honing in on your wedding style. Our suggestion? Take a variety of quizzes from different sites and compare your results for a well-rounded view of what will most suit you.
Try a few we found inspirational!
- http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-quiz/quizzes/whats-your- bridal-style.aspx
Uninspired? If you are feeling utterly uninspired (or totally overwhelmed), make a point of getting a better idea of what you want (and don’t want). Spend some time gathering inspiration, and create your own mood boards of what you like. Be sure to organize your boards, dropping images into such categories as: reception, ceremony, fashion, food, cake, invitations, etc. Use Pinterest to your advantage and pin your ideas, ensuring that they will be at your fingertips at any given moment.
Follow your favorite wedding, fashion and decor blogs and check out magazines or books. Be sure to indulge in real wedding photos online so you can see what really works- and what really doesn’t- in real life.
When it comes to finding wedding inspiration, you can access as much (or as little) as you like- the sky is truly the limit!
Thinking outside of the box. Inspiration doesn’t come in a one-size-fits-all sort of package, and the wedding world isn’t the only realm that you need to explore in developing a thorough style for your nuptials. Designs you see around town like logos or signage could spark ideas for your wedding invitations. An extravagantly textured wallpaper in a hotel could inspire the idea for your reception theme. A lighting fixture in your favorite restaurant might trigger just the right idea for the overall ambience for the event.
Keep your eyes open: inspiration is truly everywhere.