This one is for the fellas…
Young Gentlemen, please pay attention, because that girl you intend to one day turn into your “Mrs.” is not your property, okay?
Gentlemen, let me tell you something about what you are getting yourselves into, if you happen to not realize exactly what you are getting yourselves into. First of all, it is my hope that you are (at least) not younger than 27 years old, and even that is too young. Let me get to the point here, guys – that lovely girl you are marrying is someone’s daughter – some other, older, wiser, more hardcore than you want to believe he is, man, who has you by your wits. No. I am not using a metaphor, at all. Her “pops” is WAY smarter than you are, UNLESS he is a crackhead…then all bets are off.
Please know now that you are not purchasing a bride. You are not on the Pirates of the Caribbean ride at Disneyland, and those people running in circles are pretend – it is for your laughter and pleasure, and not to show you that we are able to be owned, okay?
I am telling you all right now that the beautiful young bride you are marrying will not be that same person forever. She will become who she is meant to become, and you have nothing to say about it, seriously. No matter what, the Universe will prevail – have you bothered to look at how big the sky is? That up there is just a tiny itty-bitty fraction of the Universe – you cannot compete. You will not change her, and please don’t try to, because that is her job, and more, her choice – and it will never ever be yours. You cannot choose for her to grow, or to stay stagnant. That is not yours to choose. That is hers. Trust that she is what you think she is, or that one day, may well be who she is meant to be, and that you may have made the right choice at the right time, if to do nothing more than to grow into the acceptance of the evolution of girls.
We evolve, from being the young, beautiful, perhaps even somewhat clueless, but never dimwitted, Maiden, and then to being someone’s Mother, and eventually, when our chosen time to end our child bearing years is upon us, we prepare for our Role as Crone, to our Role as the Wise-Ones, the Grandmothers of the World, which is not a bad thing, but more of an honor to Be. If you can manage to see the Grandmother in the young woman who, right now, is the Maiden, have never seen another as the one whose children would refer to as their mom, and ultimately, the Grandmother Soul which resides as the seed of life, of the future, through her, the representation of the Vessel of Life – if you can see this much, then make sure to honor it, and she will honor this same energy in you. Honor the Woman She Is.
Women…we are ever-changing, like the phases of the Moon. Never forget this. Always know that if you give her room to grow, the truth of her will be revealed, always.
Choose wisely, Young Gentlemen, of what her Truth about you will be.