Let’s face it. Breakups are hard. And can be even harder if there are children involved. For whatever reason the relationship didn’t work and you can’t even be in the same room with the other person. This is not uncommon since most people that have had some emotional connection for a certain period of time can’t seem to get over the fact that they have had a change of heart. It’s crazy to think of how some people could have been in love all of a sudden have a change of heart.
Now that time has passed and the damage has been done. You finally start to enjoy life and you are happy with your new partner in life. But, since the relationship you haven’t moved from your locale and you are doing well with everything that you have. Then, comes that date night and you see that person that you shared all of those emotions with making sudden eye contact with you from across the dining room. Not only that, but you have also talked to your current partner about this person when you guys got together and then it is suddenly two against two.
Even thought that the feelings are not as cordial as you would like them to be. There has to be someone who is willing to take the high road. What do I mean by the high road? I am simply saying that there is a way of going about doing things. This works especially if you have children. I mean, what kind of example would you want to be for your children if you can’t be a role model in awkward situations; who else would they look up to? This is not to say that your current partner might not begin to reveal his/her insecurities when it comes to “crunch time”. But this also could be an opportunity to put his/her mind at ease that there is nothing there. The debate is still going on if there could be “ties” if you share children or not. In my experience there isn’t that effect. In some cases it could be different. All of this depends on if you have truly let that person “go” in your heart. If not, then there could be room for some unsavory mishaps along the way. But if one is mature enough, there is no issue at all.
Let’s get back to the date night. It’s not at all uncommon or rude to go up to the other couple and say hello in the presence of everyone I would think that it would be more dangerous if there were someone out there that would want to speak in private. If there are children involved this is extremely great practice for everyone. This minimizes all of the drama that could be going on and diffuses all triggers that could lead to more dangerous situations.
Extra curricular activities are all about getting the kids involved in something other than video games. This is a big morale booster for kids and can have great effects on those that are trying to create sweet memories. Let’s take the soccer games for example. Do you sit next to each other or do you sit in the vicinity? If you are married, sitting side by side to the ex is a big no no! This would not bode well for the man as he would have to hear about every little detail that he made advances inadvertently. There is no way around it. Deal with it. If not married, I would say hang in the vicinity, but not to let your feelings overshadow the event of the child. In some cases there will be smart remarks made and some things done just to get you going. But, you have to be the stronger one that shows that your ex has no emotional power over you. Some people just like to draw a response out of you. There are some people who just aren’t happy that you have moved on and that you are genuinely happy with your new relationship.
In conclusion, if the ex wants to show all of the outbursts and act as if you tried to murder him/her for no apparent reason, then you have to be the one to let them do all of the crazy stuff and say, “Have a nice day.”