Sometimes shyness can prevent you from socializing with others. Try to bridge the gap between you and your peers. First try not to think negative about yourself, by putting yourself down. You may feel that no one likes you and you have nothing worthwhile to talk about. If you feel this way the gap will only widen to separate you from your peers.
Focus on your assets to bridge the gap. What are your strengths, talents or positive qualities. All of us have flaws and it’s good that we admit to them. But we can offer a lot if we think about it. By recognizing your assets this will give you the confidence needed to get rid of your negative self-image.
Sometimes it’s hard to start a conversation when we have the opportunity. Maybe you can start by showing interest in one person at a time. Just ask them how are they doing, or how is their day going so far. Remember that a conversation takes two, so be a good listener. That way you don’t have to worry about carrying the whole conversation.
Keep the conversation going. For example if someone ask you how was your day, do not just say fine. Tell them what you did so far, if it was enjoyable or a bad day, etc. Then you can ask them how was their day, and they will explain and keep the conversation going.
You know there is always people who may insult you, make wisecracks or try to put you down. Some people love to argue and force how they feel on you. If you don’t agree with them, look for something you can agree on. When you do have a conversation try to talk in a way that you want people to talk to you. Avoid arguing, murmuring, insulting, teasing or being self righteous, condemning others. “Let your words always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should answer each person” Colossians 4:6. Remember everyone is not going to like you, but that is all right, because that’s life. Work on things that can help you with the gap between you and your peers:
1. The gap I encounter most is….
2. I will start to work on building a bridge by….
3. What can I ask my parents about this subject…