Sexual tension, unfortunate misunderstandings, gender stereotyping…yep, first dates can dish out a minefield of emotions and less-than-attractive behaviors. For nearly two decades as an etiquette professional, I’ve counseled numerous clients on dating etiquette and relationship building. Most often, my advice boils down to two simple words: open-communication and honesty.
That said, how many of us are truly honest with each other on a first date? I doubt many are. We’re worried about our attire, our hair and our conversational skills. We scrutinize everything our date says. We tend to be so busy second-guessing every movement and wondering what our date is thinking, it is a wonder anyone experiences a second date.
Nevertheless, what if couples actually followed my advice and were truly honest with each other? Would it be a positive, negative or just plain odd? Well, I found a revealing video of what a couple might really be thinking during their first date.
A refreshing, but frightening, look at dating.
Refreshing is the theme of this video, which is essentially an ad for Lipton Ice Tea Sparkling — known as “Refreshing” – and Tinder, an online dating app. True to the theme, British actor Tully Smyth and Aussie comedian Henry Stone are refreshingly, if not brutally, honest with each other.
They begin their date with a sweet toast with Lipton Ice Tea Sparkling, but it goes south quickly when Henry follows it with, “You’re not nearly as hot as your photo, but I’m pretty desperate for some action.” Ouch! Tully isn’t fazed though responding with, “Totally, I’m making for it too, but I’ve already decided that it’s a no.” In real life, I doubt that either would remain sitting for another round, but they continue their date joking about people meeting “In real life” and discussing how they will lie to their friends about each other, “I’m going to totally tell my housemates I got you naked.”
The date ends on a sour note.
This type of dialogue continues throughout the short entertaining clip, climaxing with Henry’s admission, “Oh we don’t have any mutual friends (on Facebook). I just add people to sleep with their friends.” Ah huh. So… . At that point, Tully’s expression sours. Right there with you, Tully.
While I preach open-communication and honesty, this video isn’t exactly a dating tutorial. It may be an interesting method for creating interest in Lipton’s sparkling tea and Tinder’s dating app. However, in my view it’s more of an anti-dating etiquette tutorial, like “Please don’t even think about it!” Communicate and be honest, but also remember to be nice to each other.
It was fun to watch though. Totally.
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