Cults members do not always wear jumpsuits; this is a myth. There are not always warning signs that you are headed towards danger. On occasion it is as easy as breathing, that was the case for me. To let off some steam, I went through my own experience and came up with six steps to avoid/exit a cult. These are what I wound up with.
1. Do not accept the invitation
At some point, there will be an invitation. You will most likely not recognise it as such. Perhaps your father just died, and a “well meaning” friend insist you most two states away to live with them. Do not do this, it is a cult. This is a recruitment, not a kindness.
2. Maintain Your Self Identity
So you accepted the invitation. At this point, you all mixed in with whatever brand of spirituality they are selling. Suddenly, you are nothing more than part of a unit. Do not allow this to happen. You are you, maintain a sense of self identity. Think we do not have to pee I do.
3. Avoid the Arranged Marriage
There will be a beautiful woman. I do not when, but I do know there will be one. Your fearless leader will make the introduction. Do not fall in love. This is a set up. While your love interest may not already be in the cult, I guarantee you she is on the list.
4. Do not Accept Cult Therapy
If you have made this far, you are married and in a cult. At this point, in your cult experience you are
beginning to rebel, and your marriage is falling apart. The cult leader will offer to counsel you and your beloved. Avoid this at all cost, it is a tactic to get you back in line.
5. Open Your Eyes
You are starting to suspect that not all is well. Follow this thought even though it may be painful. Perhaps you have spent three years devoted to a cause, but you’re not entirely sure what the cause is. Also, things have probably become abusive, and that is not okay. Open your eyes even though it hurts. This is a cult.
6. Embrace The Banishment
You probably misbehaved, most likely saying no was involved in this somehow. Afterwards it may have included some hardcore narcotics and a bit of harmless promiscuity. I understand, your wife cheating on you and you realized you were in a cult. It was not a great day. At this point, the cult is probably ready let you go. Well, more so forcibly remove you from the state. Embrace the banishment! You are free! It will take a few years of therapy to heal, but things will get better.