First Love (Revelation 2:4):
That one monumental catalyst that transforms a person forever is certainly significant to him. But for the Christian, Jesus claims a much bigger influence. It is His grace that led us to repentance. It is the demonstration of His love through a most tragic death (potentially the most horrific in history) that brings people to follow Him in life. Jesus should not simply have the allegiance of Christians, but their entire beings, including their top romantic position. While agape love far supersedes Eros love, it does not contradict it.
That person that is intoxicating attractive to you which may actually lead to a barrier to communication. It is a myth that a crush just “happens”. People have a free will. They can and do choose either expressly or tacitly; led by either reason or emotion. The fact that this particular individual is elevated onto a pedestal that boasts a near-flawless ness should be a red flag. People are people. Even celebrities or highly-esteemed mature individuals can have poor attitudes sometimes.
This is regarded by popular culture as really multipurpose . In one perspective, it is a “testing phase” before marriage. In another perspective, it is an “antidote for boredom”. But is dating really required? If friendship is the fallback that will keep two people together when he romance has fizzled out, then why does a dating phase have to be enter in the first place? Of course, an engagement period is necessary, but this is formal, and is the seal that promises a covenant-defined marriage.
The eventual culmination of two individuals choosing to submit their lives to each other before God is seen as more of a burden then a joy. While there certainly is a lot of responsibilities attached to a married couple (especially if kids are involved) – the pros outweigh the cons by an enormous volume. The marriage relationship means that both individuals are able to “remove the mask” of impressions. They are able to live with each other without holding anything back. This is not to say that relationship does not require on-going maintenance, but it is indeed a privilege to live without expectations from your significant other. At the core of the covenant between to individuals should be more then just a good friendship though. They must have a deeper bond that actually precedes both of them. Something that unites them objectively. Something that they both belong to individually. It is my perspective then that loving God first will lead to a lasting marriage. It’s puts real substance in an otherwise flimsy and emotional relationship. If it is going to be life long, there must be something that both individuals have individually submitted to that won’t waver.
Marriage should never be reduced to “procreation”. God says in Genesis that it is not good for man to be alone. I do not believe that this exclusively endorses marriage, but a partner to share life with – absolutely. Don’t get me wrong, children are awesome, and a legacy that can be cherished for the rest of a parent’s life, but the covenant entered into with the spouse has more weight attached to it then the parental component, hands down. God created us for relationships. The whole dating phenomenon has given me the impression that friendships have lost their potency. But I would venture to challenge readers to give genuine friendship another chance. It’s more than the superficial image Facebook has tragically reduced it too…